In these days of instant global connection through the Internet, having a long-distance relationship is not as uncommon or as rare as it used to be. In fact, the fact that you can chat or connect online with somebody thousands of miles away has changed everything. So what should you keep in mind when dating a Russian or Ukrainian girl regardless of the fact that both of you are in distant locations? Distance is no longer a major issue in stopping you from finding love anywhere, regardless of your location. People can now be in distant locations and still fall in love.
Some years back, dating or finding love was confined to the nearest location. The global phenomenon named the Internet did not exist, and meeting new people was limited to physical location. You could only date a woman you could physically see! But these days, you can have a long-distance relationship with a woman in, say, Russia or Ukraine regardless of your location.
Keep reading to find out how you can make a good impression, show her who you really her (so that she can love you for who you are) and keep the fire burning, regardless of the distance. There are people who connect daily in a group setting, despite the fact that they are located in different continents. Friendships, love, and marriages have been created over the Internet by people thousands of miles apart and worked wonderfully well. By using the tips discussed below, you can learn what to do in a long-distance relationship in order to keep that fire burning. Please note that the tips are arranged from the start of the relationship to a point where you (hopefully) meet as a couple.
The tips are listed in order right from the time you meet her online to the time you settle down together.
Your initial motivation may be their looks, but that should not be the only motivation. So many people have used physical looks to jump into relationships, only to be disappointed when they learn more about the person. Once you have been attracted to the person in question, you need to learn more about them. Using physical looks as the only factor is a recipe for disappointment.
Create a good and truthful foundation by being honest or truthful about who you are. So many relationships that begin online break up as soon as the couple finally meets. Why does this happen? Because some people in long-distance relationships create make-believe profiles that are not their real selves. The profile photos may be fake, or the information on the profile page. They may even have lied about their age or other basic facts about themselves. Once the potential partner realizes that they have been lied to, the romance fizzles out pretty quickly. Be real. In other words, be yourself. You will be surprised how much easier life (and a relationship) is when you have nothing to hide!
It would be a true disappointment if you were searching for a wife and when you finally meet the girl you have been chatting with you realize that she was interested in a more casual kind of relationship, wouldn’t it? It is advisable to ensure that you understand exactly what the woman you just met is seeking. Some couples wait too long to talk about these things, and as a result, one ends up disappointed. If you have marriage in mind, let her know right from the start of the relationship. Relationships work much better if both parties know what the other wants out of the relationship.
Do not be afraid that you may be a nuisance if you ask questions. After all, you are either in a relationship or trying to get into one, and the more you know about the person the better. What things do they like? What things don’t they like? What do they do for a living? Would they be willing to move to another country or city? For instance, would she leave Russia - if she’s Russian - to be with you?) These (and others) are very crucial questions in finding out about their current occupation, and their thoughts on things that you consider important. It would be a big disappointment if you became close only to realize later that your intended partner is not willing to leave their country at any cost. Since many long-distance relationships are started with the hope of meeting at some point, it is important to settle these things as soon as possible.
Once you meet a girl you are interested in, you will understandably be curious to know all you can about her. However, being too obsessive or overbearing may put her off. Do not act too eager once you meet her. A text or chat once a day or every two or three days may be sufficient in the beginning. As the relationship grows, you may communicate more. Stay connected, but do not make her feel like she is being stalked, criticized, or stifled.
An overload of information (what some refer to as T.M.I.) may be your undoing in a relationship. At that point, before you are really comfortable with each other, giving too much personal information may be perceived as weird. For instance, she may not be interested in your ex or why you have not visited your parents for six months. At first, you can share videos, funny photos, etc. You can also crack jokes and discuss your common areas of interest.
Communication is one of the most important things that keep a relationship growing. More so if it is a long-distance relationship. At first, it is good to create a set time or period of communication such as daily, three times a week, and so on. Perhaps every evening or any time both of you may be available. This helps create expectation and consistency and helps the romance flourish. Taking week-long breaks in between communication may lead to distraction or disinterest or boredom. You can easily find things to discuss even if you just met. You can seek more advice on how to build a lasting friendship or relationship by knowing her interests and finding common ground. If she’s a Russian girl you can ask her a few things about Russia and her lifestyle as a Russian woman.
Now that you have met (at least online) or even communicated by phone, it is time to analyze the relationship. Are you a match? Do you like the person enough? Are you in love or just falling in love? Are you comfortable with them and their background? If they have a kid or kids, are you okay with it? In other words, are both of you comfortable with taking things to the next step? You will find that where there is love there is sacrifice, understanding, and forgiveness, and you may have to make some compromises here and there. This helps you understand whether you really are in a strong long-distance relationship that can last.
Since you are in different locations, the assumption is that your relationship has been online-based and communication has been through the phone or chats. If you like each other and the romance is growing, it is time to set up a meeting. The first meeting or date is very important, regardless of how much you have chatted or talked in the past. It is through this first meeting that you get a really good impression of who they are. It is through this initial meeting that you both prove that you have been honest with each other, at least in who you are. It is through this meeting that you really understand if you can live together. After all, if you can’t even meet successfully, how can you live together?
At this point, actions can speak louder than words. You probably have an idea of what she likes by now. Surprise her with a gift. A gift may speak more in your favor than a thousand words would.
Once you have met, spending some time, say hours or even days together, is a very important step. You will be able to find out how much you enjoy each other’s company. You will also be able to gauge just how much you understand each other. Besides, being together works magic in making love between the two of you grow. Assuming that she has visited you, you can gauge how she responds to your home, to your city, to your country, and to your culture. If the first meeting and the first few days work out well, chances are the relationship will. Being honest earlier in the relationship plays an important role in making her feel comfortable once she meets you. Your physical appearance, your way of talking, your sense of humor should not be a shocker. They should merely be a confirmation of the man she met online and fell in love with!
You have managed to meet and fall in love with a girl who lives in a distant place or country. The relationship has grown and you have finally met. You like each other, and she likes your home or your city. This was the ultimate goal and good news for both of you. It is even better news if she is willing to settle down with you in your country, or perhaps you have decided you are ready to settle in hers! It is a good thing to be patient with her as she learns your culture. Perhaps you are an English speaker and she speaks little or limited English. Perhaps some things in your way of living are new to her. This is the time to be patient and to make the assimilation process as pleasant as possible. If you take the time to meet her family before she settles with you, and also introduce her to yours, it may do wonders for your relationship. She will feel secure and will trust you even more.
And there you have it! These tips will help you as you meet and (hopefully) settle down with your beautiful bride! As you may have noticed, it is all about honesty, consistency, being true to yourself, knowing what you want and being dedicated. Do not create room for doubt, and do not keep secrets that will turn into shockers when you meet. Have a goal in mind, and stay focused. When you finally meet her, let her feel safe. Some may frown upon online dating, but in a modern digital world and global Internet connection, it is a great way to bring people together who would never have met otherwise. Indeed, online dating is a growing phenomenon. Best of luck!