1. You can't hear yourself
Many have grown up with authoritarian parents who are used to making all the important decisions on their own, regardless of the opinion of the child. What clubs to go to, who to be friends with, where to study, who to marry, and so on. If you are not allowed to take a single step on your own, and you do not have the courage and rebellious spirit to resist, it is no wonder that problems will arise in adulthood.

You can also arrange a trip to the past: Imagine that you are 7-8 years old again, and write down all your dreams and favorite activities. And then try to do something from this list or realize some of your childhood fantasies. There is a chance that this way you will pick up the key to yourself and find a goal that you want to go to, or a business that will please you.

2. You are hindered by fear
Sometimes, deep down, we know exactly what we need. But we do not dare to admit this even to ourselves, because then we will have to change something. And this is very scary. We are afraid of the unknown, and no wonder: this fear is considered the basic fear that is inherent in everyone and underlies all our other fears. We do not know where our desires and aspirations will lead us, so we pretend not to notice them — yes, this makes us unhappy, but we do not have to take risks.

Then try to catch your fears and work with them.
You can listen carefully to yourself and every time you come up with a negative thought, write it down. And then come up with answers for all your fears and negative attitudes. Also in writing

3. You put too much pressure on yourself
It is quite possible that you think that you should definitely understand what you want. That you must understand yourself by a certain date (for example, by the end of school or university, by the age of 30, by the next new year). That not understanding your desires and not having clear goals is shameful and not serious.

Give yourself time. Don't rush things. Don't be ashamed of yourself. Do not demand to make a decision by a certain date, do not compare yourself with your peers who have already decided on their desires and plans for a long time.