LOVE OR ADDICTION: WHEN DOES A FEELING DO HARM?

You spend the whole day together with your loved one and feel over the moon. But the next day, she doesn't answer your calls – and you are overcome with anxiety, anger, and despair. What is this addiction?

YOU FEEL THAT YOU CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT IT
Addiction is the need for someone who we think can fill the vacuum in our lives. When you feel that you are alone and can only rely on yourself, someone will come and give you a lifeline-someone who can listen to you, help you, and trust you completely. But love is not a need. A healthy mutual feeling is possible only between self-sufficient people.

YOU WANT IT TO BELONG ONLY TO YOU
Dependent relationships are often imbued with jealousy. It arises out of uncertainty and sometimes reaches the dimensions of clinical paranoia. A dependent person thoroughly studies the pages of his beloved in social networks, analyzes his every word and look, and may even arrange for him to be followed. And this is despite the fact that he may not even suspect about it and do not consider the relationship serious.

True intimacy involves calm trust. Of course, even a good relationship is not free from doubt. But a trusting person first believes and only then suspects. He calmly accepts the fact that his partner is in contact with many different people, among whom there are also very attractive personalities. If you need undivided control over your lover – this is a sign that you are addicted and are afraid to break it.

YOU FEEL THAT THERE IS A MYSTERIOUS PASSION BETWEEN YOU
Others may think that there is nothing in common between you, that your relationship is all quarrels and resentments. But you refuse to believe it: it seems to you that he understands you like no one else. This is the work of our unconscious. It pushes us to meet those in whom we see the reflection of our unconscious ideas about ourselves. If you are stressed and feel vulnerable, if you subconsciously feel that you need help, you will attract those people who are experiencing the same thing. You will not be aware of the dangers, because the situation itself will seem familiar to you. But this feeling is deceptive: such relationships will only fuel your vulnerabilities and reinforce your neurotic traits.