First, this is our past "happiness" (with a set of disappointments and claims) and led to treason. Secondly, this event changed us — both of us. The main thing here is to understand exactly how it changed. The answer to this will give an understanding of what is possible and impossible further.

Now you have to get acquainted again and start the path to a new family. But the very first thing to do is to figure out whether this person and the family with him are needed. According to statistics, the most specific reasons for maintaining a family are not related to deep feelings or internal decisions. But rather, with stereotypes and material issues. A woman is terrified of being left alone, a man is afraid of property disputes, afraid of changes and the need to start all over again in another place. Answer yourself — is your desire to stay with your partner dictated by fears and emotional dependence, or is it a desire to build a life with him and for him? If the former, especially if there are no children in the marriage, get over it and forget it. If the latter, then proceed further.

First, try to get out of the state of hysteria and stop making plans for the return of the partner and his punishment. Do not swallow pills, do not blackmail children, do not threaten, etc. Leave this for the movies, in real life it will only take time and nerves.

Of course, you can't pull yourself together in one day. Determine the time to restore the balance, for example, a month. At this time, it is important to occupy yourself, so that the psychic energy goes not to pity, to wait, to find out and eat yourself, but to create. Remember that you are a caring friend, a professional at work, that you once had a hobby... In other words, find yourself other points of support other than love. After you have learned to enjoy a new day again, go back to the question of relationships!!!