Recently, the statement that you need to love yourself, build personal boundaries, and be able to refuse what you do not want to do has gained popularity. In short: "self-love".
On the one hand, I agree with this, because you should not waste your energy on all sorts of people. You will not have time to please everyone, as they say: "You will not be nice to everyone." This statement was invented by our ancestors a long time ago.
And there are people who actively follow all these tips, turning into narcissists and egoists. I believe that they do not absorb the information that psychologists are trying to convey to us in the right way.
Self-love is not about selfishness. Self-love is a delicious breakfast in the morning, it is a care for your skin. Self-love means regular exercise, not because it's fashionable, but because I care about my health.
And most importantly, you should not forget to give smiles to people, it is not difficult, it does not mean that you do not love yourself. Going sullen is not self-love.
You need to be able not only to accept, but also to give love.
I am here to find someone who will love me, and who I will love even more in return.
I wish you all the right love!