Continuing to believe in a beautiful fairy tale, people live in the expectation that a partner will definitely meet their expectations. And not finding understanding, instead of working on relationships, they plunge into their shattered dreams. Feeling unhappy and making her soul mate unhappy.
Is it worth believing that relationships can be happy for many years !? Yes of course! But it is important to understand that a happy relationship is hard, constant work! Moreover, both parties should "work" for the benefit of personal happiness. Working on personal habits that do not suit a loved one, working out to automatism acceptable norms of behavior in the family that suit everyone, finding an opportunity to come to agreement on controversial issues, respecting and supporting each other.
The candy-bouquet period does not last long, it is replaced by everyday life, and everyone is free to decide whether to live every day lamenting over broken dreams, or to realize that life is not a movie, and you yourself decide whether your day will be happy or filled with quarrels and negative emotions. Don't build expectations, live in the moment and be happy!