I think it's not a secret for anyone that a necessary condition for mutual understanding between people is communication in the same language. We, as users of this site, should be well aware of this fact. However, modern technology has long allowed this barrier to be overcome and helped people around the world become closer.
However, few people know that love has its own languages, let alone different dialects. And in most cases, the cause of quarrels and misunderstandings is precisely the conversation in different languages ​​of love, and even not having an idea of ​​their existence.
Unfortunately or fortunately, current technology is not yet advanced enough to help people cope with these relationship difficulties. There is no robot psychologist who would provide a solution for every problem you voiced. And I think that this will never happen, because human relationships are a very delicate matter that is difficult to represent in the form of zeroes and ones. Although how would it simplify our life!
So you have to figure it out on your own. And now we will understand the linguistics of love, find out what these 5 wonderful languages are, and which one you speak. Or it may turn out that you are completely polyglot.
In general, the idea of ​​the presence of different love languages ​​was proposed by the famous American psychologist Gary Chapman in his book of the same name. The concept of "love language" is a metaphorical way to describe and classify everything that people understand by love and by the concept of "love", in what ways they say "I love you" and through what actions of a partner understand that they are loved too.
For many years, great writers, thinkers, philosophers, psychologists have tried to define the concept of "love", but have not come to a common denominator. Therefore, it is not surprising that we are ordinary people and sometimes understand completely different things by this. And it depends on our upbringing, our childhood, our experience.
But I think it does not necessarily seek to find common ground. To build a strong relationship, you just need to understand the differences in these languages ​​and try to accept these differences, not fight them. It is also important to understand the language of your partner, the desire to learn to speak it, as well as to explain what language you speak.
Realizing the importance of this problem, G. Chapman set about solving it in order to convince us that there was a solution. Indeed, from Chapman's point of view, love is a choice, an act of will that requires discipline and recognizes the need for growth. You try for the other person, and if you succeed, then you yourself are glad that you really love.
In his research, the author identifies five love languages: words of encouragement, time, gifts, help, touch.

The words
For those who speak the language of words, it is important that they are not only loved and appreciated, but also be able to speak about it openly. Words of support or gratitude help to cheer you up, cheer you up and believe in yourself.
Don't use praise to get your way. Praise your loved one to bring joy.

Time
Being together is the main rule of those whose love language is time. Being together means paying attention to each other: talking or coming up with a joint activity that will be interesting to both.
When you do something together, you have shared memories. It is an inexhaustible source of joy.

Presents
Gifts are visible symbols of love, and symbols have emotional value. Gifts are different: expensive or not very, but for a person who speaks this language, the price does not matter much.
If gifts are important to your loved one, you must learn how to make them.

Help
To help is to do something pleasant for another. This is another way to express your love. If you find it difficult to understand what kind of help will be really useful for a loved one, ask him to make a list.
Asking helps to express love, and orders kill it.

Touches
Each of us is different, each has its own character and perception of this world. For some, feeling love is feeling touched. There are many ways to express love through touch because tactile receptors are found throughout the body.
Touch can express love and sometimes hate.
How to guess the language that a person speaks?

Take a closer look at how your loved one expresses love. This can help identify his native love language and come to a better understanding.
Sometimes it is extremely important to see the world through the eyes of another person. All people have different needs, and that's okay. Sometimes, in order to save a relationship, it is enough to understand in time what is important for your partner, and not just for you. Then it will be possible to support him as he needs. Give people what they need, not you.

So what language do you speak?

Yours, Elena.