There is a Formula for Lifetime Love!
Engagement and friendship phases take a long time, but after marriage, they start to behave naturally. When you act naturally, conflict arises. If a good cooperation is established in marriages, it turns into a lifetime love. Personality is important in long relationships, relationships that are reduced to physical appearance are at the level of primitiveness, I am talking about the relationships between men and women, I give important advice for marriages with a solid foundation. Bulent

Men want to be appreciated

They want a sense of autonomy to be promoted. They want his wife to support him in this direction. His wife should support him. If his wife says, "You can't do it, you can't do it", it will be the worst thing that can be done to a man. Such criticism of his sense of autonomy and results-oriented thinking is evil. To insult the woman's feelings by saying, "You are so cold, what kind of woman are you" is the biggest criticism to be made to her. Because it's humiliating.


For this reason, the most important thing for both parties in male-female relationships is positive communication. In couple therapy, we witness the little wars within the family, their sarcasm and criticism of each other. Ninety out of a hundred problems in communication are among them. In such cases, when the man goes home, his foot goes backwards. It feels like going to court, is there a warm atmosphere on the way home or not, it focuses on how to provide it. This applies to both parties.

Love alone is not enough in marriage

If a person feels peaceful and safe in marriage, the feature of shelter emerges. In family therapy, we most often question whether the home is a safe space. Just love is not enough. There is love, but they turn everything into intrigue.


In such cases, there is love, but he takes his wife, drags her somewhere, makes her do something. Then the house ceases to be a safe space. That's why we say love plus honesty equals lifelong love. Then there is good cooperation, an open and clear relationship. Love and honesty build trust. Trust also facilitates cooperation and the feeling of love for life develops in that way.

Love and cooperation ensure a lifetime of love

Usually, the answer to the question "Why didn't you get married?" is "I didn't fall in love". She falls in love, gets divorced six months later. Here, love does not last without good cooperation. It evaporates. If you establish a good cooperation, it turns into a lifetime love. For him, love is not temporary, it is only temporary if cooperation is not established. Love and cooperation ensure lifelong love.


If the lovers can cooperate well, the love will not evaporate, if the lovers have problem-solving skills, their love will be stronger, and if the lovers have common goals, their love will take root. What makes a woman cute and attractive is her personality. It is not sexual or physical appearance. It's not gender or femininity. For example, there are very charming women whose appearance is not overly beautiful. The share of a woman's appearance in being attractive is 20 percent.

Relationships should not be reduced to physical appearance.

There will be beauty of the soul in man. The fact that a person who has evil in them is physically beautiful is only the first power to affect. Reducing to physical appearance in male and female relations is a relationship at the primitive level. There are animals that are content with physical appearance. People are beautiful with their personality, spiritual structure and character traits. It is necessary to understand the beauty that we call soul beauty.

We are in an age where women are liberated.

Generally, women and men experience conflict when they become partners without knowing their psychological differences. Conflict is natural in this situation. Engagement and friendship phases take a long time, but after marriage, they start to behave naturally. When you act naturally, conflict arises. If a party always says to follow my rules, it's called cruelty. To enslave the other. It is to make the male-female relationship a slave-master relationship. We live in an age where women are liberated. This is a just movement, but the dose of this movement has escaped and turned into wars between men and women.

Compassion and kindness is the magic concept of relationships

It is necessary to say, 'What should I do for the good of marriage? If the spouses will act accordingly and the other side does not change, 'I do not find this move of yours right, I do not support it, but I leave it aside for the future of your children and home. Saying 'I didn't forget this,' and ending the discussion leaves a feeling of guilt on the other side.
In such cases, if he can openly say that he does not approve, but say that he wrote it aside so that there will be no incidents in the house and there will be no uneasiness, the problems can be solved. There are two magic concepts in relationships. One is kindness and the other is kindness. Compassion is greater than love. It also includes empathy. Kindness is also greater than respect, there is compassion in it. From the first day of marriage, it is necessary to turn compassion and kindness into a form of communication within the family.