I wonder if there is one big secret in life of a long relationship between a man and a woman? This question worries many, and they are looking for an answer to it on the Internet, among life examples, and inside themselves. However, few people find, and if they do, then only the rules that need to be followed. But these tips from psychologists do not always work. Why? Yes, because you need to follow them sincerely, with a loving heart, with an open soul and a clear conscience. And not to one of the partners, but to both.


What does a relationship consist of
What is a relationship, and are they always based on love? Many will answer: "Of course yes, otherwise what kind of relationship can there be without love!" But in fact, the word "relationship", in relation to the relationship of a man and a woman, does not necessarily imply the presence of love. It happens that this is either a purely intimate attraction, or a simple platonic interest. The whole point is what mutual benefit both sides will have from this. And it happens:
- aesthetic (I like to communicate with a person);
- intimate, when you like only the body, and everything that is outside of it does not matter;
- material;
- moral or psychological;
- household (for example, the increase or purchase of living space)

But the secret of a long and happy relationship is not in money, but in the moral, psychological relationship of the couple. Folk wisdom says for a reason that "with a nice paradise and in a hut".

So the relationship between a man and a woman is not only money and a common living space, but also something special and attractive for both of them. So much so that they will never want to part again.

Time of romance:
Starting a relationship is always romantic and beautiful. I want not only to look attractive, but also to show off my erudition, and show my sense of humor, and in general everything that you are capable of.

When a person falls in love, he becomes different, he does not want his partner to see all his shortcomings and learn about all his not very good habits, he wants to look better than he really is. Of course, such a relationship with an "ideal" person is very easy to build. Spending time together at the first stage does not imply a long stay under the same roof, solving household and material problems, so it's easy to be "yourself" and it's nice to love someone without any obligations.

But such romantic relationships are not new and in nature they take place among animals, birds, and other living beings. A person is distinguished from them by a special behavior, which becomes fundamental for a long and happy life together. After all, if animals choose a mate for life, then they follow more instinct, but a person, in order to "live happily ever after and die in one day", will have to love his chosen soul mate for more than one year. And without love-what kind of relationship, isn't it?

The simple secret of a long and happy relationship.

Just loving someone and not knowing why is a very hard work, and therefore most people begin to invent an ideal for themselves, endowed with certain advantages. But this practice does not lead to an eternal union of two hearts. What do you need for a long and happy life together?

1. Sincerity. It is the absence of lies in a relationship that will lead to a long life together. Just starting to build mutual connections, a person tries to deceive a loved one, hiding his shortcomings, bad habits and inclinations. It is not necessary to do this immediately, and even more so after, when a family has already been created.

2. Mutual respect. It is mutual respect that is necessary to maintain good relations for a long time. If at least one of the spouses does not want to take into account the opinion of the other, this will lead to a conflict, and not just one.

3.Support – both moral and physical. Everyone needs care and understanding. And when one of the partners is ill for some moral reason or he suddenly fell ill, then only someone who is close, who loves, sympathizes and cares, will be able to cure him of mental suffering and bodily torment.

4. A positive and easy attitude to life can eliminate many problems that seem difficult and impossible. Do not build castles in the air, and then you will not have to fall to the ground. Be content with what you have and really look at things and at relationships with other people.

5. To be like-minded in all endeavors means to solve all household and money problems without quarrels and scandals. You should not make plans for anything without consulting your spouse.

6.There is no need to hide your feelings in yourself, it is always necessary to share them, even the most negative ones. But not with shouts, complaints and accusations, but calmly, as if asking for advice on what to do. It is easier to share joy than sorrows and problems, but it should not hide anything from a loved and loving person.

7. Simple hugs and kisses, tenderness and attentive attitude only strengthen trust and raise the vitality. I want to behave the same way with a gentle and affectionate person. Do not be shy about your feelings and hold hands more tightly, even if you have lived together for more than one year.

8. You should always try to be close, even if two people are far from each other, think about a meeting, call up more often and ask not about business, but about the state of mind. Talk more often about your love for your spouse, about how you are waiting for a meeting with him

9. Jealousy is one of the worst enemies of love. This is selfishness and selfishness. A spouse who does not trust a loved one will not be able to live peacefully on his own and will not let his life partner live.

10. Everyone should have their own outlet, their own corner, where they could retire. Only a few people can be constantly together, so you should try to respect each other's personal space.

11. Do not try to change your spouse for yourself. Each of the people is unique as a person. Everyone has habits, both bad and good. It is not necessary to "break" the character of another. If the spouses love and respect each other, they will either accept each other as they are, or they will try to change themselves for the sake of a loved one.

Finally, I would like to quote the words from the Bible, which perfectly characterize what the relationship between loving people should be. "Love is long-suffering, merciful, love does not envy, love is not exalted, is not proud, does not commit outrages, does not seek its own, is not irritated, does not think evil, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; covers everything, believes everything, hopes everything, endures everything." Follow this wise formula, and the relationship in the family will be happy and long.