If you hide the truth to protect someone from pain and harm, it is perceived as a manifestation of empathy and compassion. If you lie to protect yourself from problems, this is already far from altruism.

One way or another, accumulating, such a small lie turns into a real avalanche of lies that can destroy relationships.

Four types of "lies for the good" that are not worth saying

🔴 "I'll get in touch with you"

If you know for sure that you will never dial this number in your life, do not promise to call back. Trying not to seem impolite is not worth it, quite possibly, to make a person experience psychological and emotional suffering because of a broken promise.

🔴 "You are the only one I have"

You do not need to assure your partner of the exclusivity of your relationship if you are waiting for a "good moment" to break up. The longer you give a person a reason to believe that everything is fine with you, the more painful the gap will be.

Ending a relationship that leads nowhere is like abruptly tearing off a Band-Aid. It hurts for a couple of seconds, and then it stops. If you tear it off slowly, you only stretch the pain. Honesty will always lead to the best in the end. Unlike "lying for the good".

🔴 "We're just friends"

If you are "just friends", it is unlikely that you have a reason to prove it hotly. It is worth recognizing that emotional infidelities can be just as destructive for relationships as physical ones.

In fact, women are especially prone to be jealous if they see that the partner is getting closer to a friend — or rather, to a friend. Therefore, claiming that she is "just a friend", you will not earn yourself a credit of trust. If your friendship does not look like such, then there is a reason to think about your choices and decisions.

🔴 "I promise, this is the last time"

It does not matter what it is about — alcohol, flirting, smoking, lying on the couch when the partner is busy with something useful... Do not make promises that you know for sure that you will not fulfill. Thus, you do not save the relationship from collapse, but only bring it closer. Whether you want to believe it or not, but the partner also knows perfectly well that nothing will change-neither tomorrow, nor in a week, nor in a month.

❗️When does a little lie become a threat to a relationship?
In short — when you lie to save your skin, and not to protect the feelings of another person. Think about what consequences await you if the secret becomes clear.