What is an Ideal Relationship and how it should be.

Have you ever thought why tango is the dance of love? Or why does it always remind us of passion and love?

In Tango, the bodies need to create balance due to their tension. The legs should touch but not strangle. It should not impede movement. Tango requires the balance at the center of the relationship, not the balance of men and women separately. If a great show is to be put on, partners need to learn to stay in touch in dance. This is what reflects passion to us. Diversity being whole and coming together in harmony.

“Two half people can't have a relationship. Because it takes two separate adults integrated to make the relationship work.

I believe that I will find the girl with whom I will be in an ideal relationship on this site, Bülent


The beginning of every relationship is beautiful. The personal needs that initiate the relationship include being loved, valued and cared for, and these needs are often satisfied at the beginning of every relationship. Being with each other, sharing and being supported gives the person the opportunity to develop himself in the relationship. But of course, this situation must be mutual.


Why does the relationship end?
Couples often experience conflict over the characteristics that brought them together. It is often differences that initiate attraction in humans.

What was very difficult for me at first fascinates me. When time passes and the spell is broken, this situation starts to turn into a problem or we think that the problem is differences and we look for the problem in differences. The point is, however, that the connection is broken. When I lose my connection, everything starts to become a threat. I start to collect evidence that I am not loved, cared for, not valuable, and this causes a decrease in communication over time, and sometimes even a break in it.

There can be many reasons for disconnection within a relationship. Our myths about the relationship, our beliefs that support or not support the relationship, our changing needs in the relationship, and the inability to support the relationship in a way that meets these needs paves the way for the disconnection.

The knowledge that we often accept as true in a relationship is that love, passion and passion are always felt with the same intensity. However, the reality is different. Love is not felt at the same intensity all the time. Sometimes it decreases, sometimes it increases. Our needs change according to the innovations that life offers us. Because people change, the environment changes, our conditions change. Where there is change, resistance to change brings along problems. The phrase you have changed a lot is often used as an accusation between couples. However, what is accused is the truth of human nature.

Another myth is that the golden rule of being with someone is to be the same, to feel the same things, to share the same pleasures. However, this goes against human nature. Man is unique. His uniqueness cannot be the same as someone else's. Trying to make the other person the same as ourselves or trying to be the same with him brings problems because it distracts us from our uniqueness.

Personal wealth nourishes the relationship. When we can't feed ourselves personally, we cut the most important branch that can feed the relationship. Just as if they are constantly holding hands, people cannot feel each other's hand after a while, and they have trouble feeling each other when they are constantly together. The relationship becomes monotonous.


What would the ideal relationship be like?
The ideal relationship is neither sameness nor completion. Love is experienced between two whole beings who find each other. Not between two halves who need each other to feel whole. Therefore, love is to be able to discover, to be willing to discover. The famous French writer Marcel Proust offers us a golden piece of advice on discovery. He says that a true journey of discovery is possible not by seeing new places, but by seeing with new eyes. Volunteering to discover someone is actually self-discovery.

The ideal relationship paves the way for growth, it allows. It is supportive. Diversity is wealth, not threat. Demanding in a relationship is not selfish, it's freedom. The ideal relationship is one that gives the chance to choose what is appropriate, not what should be. The ideal relationship is one in which you can express yourself with confidence, not that you have to constantly explain yourself.

Now, look at your relationship from this perspective… Bülent