10 Ways to Strengthen Communication in Marriages
10 steps for Strong and Effective Communication in Marriages,
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1. Communication Stoppers
There are 8 responses that are most likely to prevent your partner from sharing their deep feelings and thoughts with you. We may have all used or still use these phrases and gestures, without realizing how badly they make our spouses feel. Once you get to know these patterns, I hope you won't use them again.

When your partner needs to be heard and understood;

Trivialize – Making your problem or experience unnecessary and/or trivial.
Taking the other person's side – Not supporting your partner.
Blame – Criticizing your partner.
Fix it – Offering a solution to the situation without asking your partner.
Giving unsolicited suggestions – Telling your partner how to act or feel.
Shock – Getting angry or angry at what your partner has said.
Overlooking – Talking about how you could handle the situation better.
Negativity – Giving impatient, angry, or sarcastic responses.
2. Full Support
Many people believe that if they support what their partner thinks and/or feels, it automatically means agreeing with them. The support you give your spouse does not have to be the same as your personal opinion. Even if you have a different perspective on the situation, you can be empathetic and understanding in understanding how your partner is thinking and feeling.

Even if you and your partner agree that your emotional and psychological support does not mean you agree, you are completely free to support each other's thoughts and feelings. That way, once your partner feels heard, understood, and supported, you can ask if they want feedback if needed.

3. Monitoring
If your partner feels that each and every one of their words is important to you, they are much more likely to continue to share their privacy with you. To help your partner see the situation better, it's important to watch closely and see each important statement as an emotional piece of a puzzle.

People tend to repeat sentences or skip logical sequence when they talk about a subject they are emotionally distressed about. Therefore, if you can support your partner in putting their conversation together, it will be of great help. You can take notes, carefully ask questions, or make comments to help them piece together their thoughts.

4. Asset
Anyone who tries to share something hurtful or frightening will instantly know if the other person is listening enough or is unwilling. If you listen reluctantly, your responses to your partner will be dismissive, impatient, or callous. Your partner will eventually feel bored or unheard and will automatically shorten the conversation or force you to be heard.

When your partner is angry, upset, or repetitive, it can sometimes be difficult to focus on listening. It is likely to be even more difficult, especially if you are the subject of the problem. If at any point you feel defensive and have a hard time listening to him anymore because of your own reactivity, ask for some time/space to balance and regroup before continuing with the conversation.

5. Rhythm
Good listeners understand why their partner is struggling and their current needs from the way they communicate. They do not try to suppress emotions, disrupt the rhythm of speech, or change the way words are expressed.

Some people get tired as feelings deepen or go from one tempo to another, depending on the topic being told. If you can keep your own inner rhythm and be flexible enough to keep up with your partner's tempo, you can help them move to a more comfortable pace where both of you will be comfortable and eventually reach the core truths together.
6. Emotional Anthropology
The idea of ​​imposing your own thoughts and feelings on another person is very tempting when the other person is vulnerable or needy. While your partner is trying to explore their deep senses or thoughts, they may seem indecisive or need direction. This can feel like an invitation to you to lead him.

At such times, it is especially important to really take care of your partner, to try to understand the effects and consequences of the difficult situation, and how your partner is getting into their current mood.

Anthropologists know how important it is to respect and support different cultures, even if they don't see the world the same way. Each person is a culture unto himself. People should remember that their partner's reality should be viewed with the same holiness as their own.

7. Timing
Even good listeners can make mistakes such as responding too quickly, saying too much, interrupting, straying from the topic, or closing the topic quickly. Talking to someone who's upset and emotional can be challenging when you have your own priorities and agenda.

In any conversation, if your own feelings don't allow you to stay in the moment, you should definitely tell your partner that you're feeling overwhelmed and/or getting defensive. When you're impatient, you can't continue to be a good listener. In such situations, it's always better to delay the conversation to a time when you can actually listen to your partner. However, it is important that you bring the subject up again as soon as possible so that your partner does not feel worthless and abandoned.

8. Non-Judgmental Feedback
Once your partner feels safe, heard, and ready, and you've asked them if they're willing to listen to you, you can provide non-judgmental feedback.

Start by summarizing (using your notes) what you understand from what your partner has said. Share with him what you think he needs and where(s) you agree or disagree. Also, share with him how you feel about what you heard and your responses. Even if your experience was not positive, you can convey your feelings with care.

Ask for feedback on how you are doing as a listener. Ask what you got right and what you got wrong. Does your partner feel understood and supported? In what aspects? Does it have good feedback for you? Learn these.

9. Patience
Patience is not “just waiting”. to be patient; is to be fully involved in the situation with interest. So much so that you do not notice how time passes. While listening deeply to your partner, your only desire is to be fully “there” for your loved one.

emotional patience; It means that you are absolutely willing to put aside your own needs for a while without feeling any resentment, impatience or annoyance towards your partner and their needs. And you would be honored to do so.

This may seem idealistic, but most people who have shared something emotional or painful know exactly what it means to be able to talk to someone who really wants to listen. When you understand your spouse deeply and establish a genuine communication, your reward as a listener will be as valuable as that of your spouse who speaks and shares his/her privacy.

10. Net Weaving
This skill is the true art of a great communicator. The sentences of people who are in pain and trying to express their negative feelings are often messy or may not be able to use meaningful expressions.

A good listener weaves his partner's past statements like a web, connecting them to the present and carrying them into the future. To do this, he must gather clues from the past and combine them with what he already knows about that person.

Using a combination of emotional support, proper listening, monitoring, rhythm, interest, and a degree of presence effectively helps your partner get closer to the core message of their conversation.

Weaving also helps your partner understand how their past affects their present. It also allows him to see the behavior/thought patterns he repeats even though it doesn't work well, and makes it possible not to continue these patterns in the future.

Caution is also very important to ensure that your partner does not feel stuck or judged by their posts.