When couples first fall in love, it is the honeymoon of a new beginning. This is a time of magic and wonder. Hearts open. Spirits soar. In this phase of love, in this expansion of our souls, we may feel we have met our soulmate. Some say the honeymoon is like a spiritual experience. But many say the honeymoon does not last forever. So it becomes important to refine our thinking about soulmates, true love, and what constitutes a soulful relationship.

We've been there countless times, wondering when we'll find that ONE, that perfect person we want to stay with forever and ever. Even in a relationship, we reach a point where the person we're with doesn't feel as special as he or she used to. Maybe we start picking at flaws or noticing other people, wondering if we'd be happier with them. And once again, the relationship begins its slow decline.

If we use our relationships to make us wiser, kinder and more compassionate, we can actually change how they function. We can have the relationships and lives we've always dreamed of.

The element that elevates a spiritual partnership beyond an ordinary relationship is the revolutionary idea that your role is to support each other on your path to reach ultimate evolution, to become your best self. Get clear that what you are looking for is not just physical security or emotional support but spiritual evolution. This means you are supporting each other in your mutual quest to become a more "enlightened" being. If your goal is company or financial security, don't expect long-term satisfaction. If your goal is radical evolution of your body, mind and spirit, expect fulfillment beyond your dreams.

You can only find out if you're with a soulmate by going through the potentially growth-filled times of challenge or upset. You cannot gauge it by the honeymoon phase alone.
To know if you are with a true soulmate, you need to see how you both show up to work with upsets, sensitivities, differences and challenges.
So I wish all of us to find our soulmates and do our best to create great spiritual relationships…