Just some thoughts about reality, relationships and various minutiae: After spending endless hours here trying to discern if ANYONE REALLY is about what they say they are about, I wanted to chime in a bit.

Men are human. Remember that. Sure, we can be cavemen, and there are members of my sex that give all of us a bad name- the ubiquitous "player", always out for number ONE, the user, abuser, and just all around terrible human. Ladies- let me be the first to say I hope you steer well clear of this guy.

Now, let us talk about the rest of us- the men who actually give a sh*t what you think, and want to develop REAL, LOVING relationships with just ONE woman. What? You say? No harem? No girl for every night? Respectfully: NO. Real men are NOT necessarily wealthy. Nor are we jet setting continent hopping businessmen. Many of us here have regular, normal, (interesting, dangerous, often monotonous, repetitious, necessary -pick any 3) jobs that provide income for himself and his family, should he have one. I myself have four children. My daughters are grown and off on their own, but my two sons, both teens, live with me. I am not a super spy. I am not a lifeguard. No movie tropes. I, for example, am a fiber optic technician. Yes, NOT wildly exciting. But life is not about being that. I suppose that is my first point. Give the real guy you meet here some credit. We just seek companionship. The human soul is a fragile beast. Human interaction is calming and reassuring.

On what we seek: I am 103% sure that the photo shoots that each of you endure to make yourself EXTREMELY enticing to the male populus is exhilarating, and solidifies your self actualization. That being said, I assure you that many men would rather just see regular pictures shot on your phones that depict everyday life, and your journey through it. Why? Last time I checked, regular dinner at home does not require a dress with a ten foot train, or take place in a subtropical menagerie, plucked from a movie scene. I am sorry to rain reality, but if I saw you at your table in your kitchen, at least I would be confident that I stood a chance at winning your approval- given that you were a REAL woman, in a REAL environment. Each of us know what we deal with every day. I suppose that is what makes this site so appealing. Escapism. But I worry that such idyllic aspirations cloud our ability to interpret what may be a potential, well matched lady.

Believe it or not, men actually care about your BRAIN! OK, I will wait, til you pick yourselves off the floor, having fallen off your collective chairs having read this jaw dropping revelation. Ready? Great. I read SO MANY profiles that profess only wanting a serious man, but I RECEIVE chat invites that insinuate all forms of sexual, adult type relations, and questions about whether I think "she" is beautiful, or sexy enough. How about this: If you wish to chat with us, BE YOURSELF. TAKE A CHANCE. BE VULNERABLE. Lord knows WE ARE. (Talking as myself as a fine example.) I would rather know what your interests are, what music you like, whether you have allergies, or if you find certain recreational events boring, RATHER than if you can eat an icecream cone on video for me (yes, I get the insinuation).

I hope that I am not the only NON super hero male here that dares express his TRUE opinion about how desperately we just want to connect to another human soul. If I am, please accept this as my acknowledgement that I am a male in touch with my feelings. I wish you all much luck in finding your HIM.
Thanks for reading.