Each of us has certain behaviors that we call patterns. Psychologists say that these are individual characteristics of a person, as well as some habits and manners. The pattern of character is regularity and consistency. This applies to both work and love. Based on this, we can already guess why there are very lonely people. They face the same stories and react to them the same way. For example, there is a man who is always abandoned by girls. It's a pity that he is so unlucky... But what if I say that his pattern is the position of the victim? With the first bad experience, he may project the same scenario in the future. After starting a relationship, you can tell a girl: "I will not allow cheating in a relationship." And the girl will already listen and will not allow herself to subconsciously think about other partners. So what should you avoid in a relationship so that it doesn't end in a breakup? Change! Change your attitude towards things, experiment and try to face fear. If you were betrayed by a woman from your city, try changing your search vector - start dating a Slav! Or if your ex-spouse beat you in marriage, avoid dominators. Try to find a partner, not a boss and a commander. Hope I can be helpful! Thanks!