Yes, women's friendship can be externally different from men's. Our hormones, upbringing and peculiarities of socialization lead to the fact that we value not only and not so much feasible help in solving problems, but the very presence next to us at important moments of our life. We need to know that no matter how petty our problems are, our emotions will still accept and share them with us. This often makes women's friendship even stronger than men's, because it is easier for us to recognize our attachment to each other and therefore it is easier for us to resolve conflicts that arise between friends.
Female friendship is based on rivalry and envy
No friendship, neither female, nor male, nor female-male, can be built on these feelings. We call friendship only equal harmonious relations between people, built primarily on acceptance, trust and a sense of comfort. A friend or girlfriend is the person in whose company you feel safe. A friend will not put pressure on you, humiliate or insult you. Even if she does not agree with you, she will choose words that will not offend you.
If you can easily say that someone dominates your relationship, it is unlikely that we are talking about friendship. A person who constantly strikes at your self-esteem cannot be considered a girlfriend. As soon as some kind of envy or rivalry gets into a friendly relationship, it ceases to be friendship. In this case, some of you are trying to assert yourself, and this is bad regardless of your gender and gender. Especially funny in this case seems to be the statement that friends remain friends until they fall in love with the same guy.
Female friendship lives up to the first guy
Men say that girls forget about friendship as soon as they fall in love with one guy. Of course, you can't order your heart, but choosing between a long-term friendship and an unfamiliar man, not all women will prefer the latter. Situations are different, but real friends will not stick in each other's wheels, but will figure out how to solve this problem. Together. Girls will better understand their own feelings and give way than lose a loved one. Cases when girlfriends simultaneously refuse a guy they like for the sake of their friendship occur as often as quarrels because of them.
If your friendship does not look like a standard, then it is not real
Have you and your girlfriend ever had a night out in pajamas with wine and watching all parts of The Lord of the Rings? Don't you share the most terrible and ridiculous thoughts with each other? Aren't you two real friends? The neighbor has a get-together every Friday, and you see each other once a month and just walk in the park, talking about nonsense. "I guess it's not friendship?". No, it's not.
Your friendship doesn't have to be like someone else's. This myth was created by ideal TV friends, and has since destroyed many relationships. In real life, people don't make friends the way the heroes of American sitcoms make friends. The fact that your friend does not share any secrets with you, she does not cease to be a friend. Even if you don't want to tell her something yourself, it doesn't mean that you don't trust her. It's just that at the moment, for some reason, you are not ready to reveal the secret to her. If she is not trying to find out something for selfish purposes, she will definitely understand you and wait for you to "mature". At the same time, a friend cannot read your thoughts, so if you are hiding something from her, do not expect her to understand in time that you need help.