Working on relationships means constantly developing as a person, based on the needs of the marital union.


In simple words, you are working on a relationship when you do not ignore your husband's claims, but try to understand why these claims arose and what you can personally do to make them disappear. Or — you learn new techniques of dialogue, because you can't convey your thoughts to your husband. Or you are sorting out your genogram to see behavioral scenarios that may cause problems in marriage. It's all about working on relationships, not leaving them to chance, solving problems.

The main thing is to make sure not to cross the border and not become a victim. Otherwise, it will no longer work on relationships, but sadism and masochism.

For example, when a husband finds fault with his wife all the time because of her inability to cook, and she accepts these claims, blames herself, after which she reaches a complex and a nervous breakdown.

By the way, this is why marriages between teenagers often break up – after all, the awareness of their own boundaries among teenagers is not yet clear.

Yes, everything is complicated! In most cases, happiness is not a gift from heaven, but the ability to be happy. In family relationships, too. And don't think that being able means being content with little, it means appreciating and multiplying.