So he gives you the installation: you want attention = you need a quarrel, where the man will be guilty. But for some reason, no one uses the technique of getting hooked on emotions in a positive way to get what you need!

For example, if you give a person what he likes/wants every time he "behaves well", then he will continue to do it. If a woman is given attention when she smiles, then she will not deliberately provoke conflicts. If you admire her when she puts on dresses, then she will wear dresses. And it works not only in small things. In order for a person to do as you want, then give back what that person wants.

People are simple creatures, it's enough just to understand how we are arranged. Give emotions and reactions to what you like, and people will do it more!

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