Breaking pattern that will shock you: a normal lady does not want to get married just like that. She wants love, care, a loved one. With him, she will feel safe and comfortable. “Marriage” as such is never her goal. Are you in shock now? The first and foremost reason for the huge number of divorces in the world is traditional early marriage. This is the case when two young creatures have not yet learned to live, but are experiencing together. Often this happens on impulse or in spite of someone. Like Romeo and Juliet playing a drama. Such marriages fail, but young people do not want to realize it. But I do not argue, there are couples who live together from a young age to 60 years. It's fine! But this is a very rare case. There are a lot of early marriages in the CIS countries. In Western Europe and America, the trend is changing. People get an education first, and then marriage. Why did it happen that earlier marriage became traditional for Slavic women? The demographic crisis, which fell on the youth of our grandmothers - the post-war years, is to blame. There were few men, there were even fewer healthy men among them, and, accordingly, good ones were “married” quickly. The girl had to be in time until the age of 20, otherwise, she would be left alone. Both happy in marriage, and unhappy, and grandmothers left alone broadcast the same idea to their daughters, our mothers: hurry up, there is not enough for everyone. And this pattern, this sample, this model of behavior is transmitted through a generation, and through two. I would call it the genetic fear of loneliness. There is an opinion that in youth it is easier for people to adapt to each other's peculiarities. The opinion is deeply mistaken. Let us then marry the children right in kindergarten, so that they immediately adapt to each other. It's not about adaptability, it's about the experience of building relationships with the opposite sex. And without this experience, the risk of ending up in toxic, neurotic relationships and not recognizing them is too great: there is nothing to compare with! Before getting married, a girl must live alone, live with a partner, change partners, gain experience in quarrels and their resolution, and most importantly, avoid loneliness-phobia. Then, with a high probability, she will build a mature, healthy and lasting relationship in which both she and her partner will be happy.