We hardly tolerate other people.
But we tolerate and do not show that their stupidity, greasy jokes, and arrogance are unpleasant to us. Chomping, vulgar jokes, whatever. But we endure. Although we are not at all dependent on them. They do not pay us for work, we do not live in their house, and we have nothing in common. But we endure so as not to upset others, those who are dear and close to us. A half-baked man with rude jokes is tolerated because of his kind wife. Arrogant relatives of a husband or wife: an evil mother-in-law, a parasitic brother or a poisonous sister is tolerated for the sake of a spouse. And we even invite you into the house so that there is no reason for conflict. And for the sake of the child we endure a rude old woman-grandmother, a stranger to us. Although we understand everything perfectly and at any moment we can refuse to communicate - what do we lose? Nothing. Breathing is easier. For the sake of loved ones and dear ones, completely strangers has no idea about the boundaries. And boors do not know about it. And they believe that we are obliged to endure and communicate - they have great self-esteem. And keep eating our food or energy, throwing cynical jokes, climbing in and expressing opinions we didn't ask. And this is the right patience, only a kind and worthy person is capable of it. ... But one fine day this kind patience ends. Even the most patient people. And we silently block the network, do not answer calls and politely ask you not to visit our house. The measure of patience ends sooner or later. Even if you endure for the sake of someone, then the one for whom you endured will begin to annoy. This is how the psyche works. And, fearing to hurt someone, we hurt ourselves. And we spoil relationships with loved ones. So you shouldn't endure it for a long time; a deplorable outcome is inevitable. And you still need to treat yourself better