THE FIRST SECRET.
Trust, complete immersion in each other and unity with a partner is very important. To achieve it, we adapt to each other by gestures, by words, by rhythm and views on life, on various issues. This is how we create a cozy emotional and physical wigwam that we want to return to.
Someone does it consciously, someone intuitively, but the result is always the same: a state of harmony.
It is at this moment of perfectly tuned resonance that it is especially easy to lose a sense of proportion and forget that the continuation of dignity has always been and will always be disadvantages.

THE SECOND SECRET.
There are hundreds of ways to convey a single thought, and only a few of them will lead us to the desired result. The problem is that people themselves are not always aware of what result they expect in response to their words or actions.
Of course, behind each of our actions and words there is always some positive (for ourselves) intention.
But whatever we intend to do there, it won't work if:
• this intention is not realized.
• the implementation method is chosen at random.

THE THIRD SECRET.
You determine what role the person next to you will take. Simple logic asserts that we simply will not find ourselves in a relationship with a person whose life and relational roles do not "dock" with ours at all. After all, everything in the world is dual: a narrator is useless without a listener, a writer makes a reader, and a tyrant does not exist without a victim. The same principle is responsible for our love relationships.
There are no right and wrong roles, there are those that either bring happiness to both or take it away.
The question of change comes to an edge (if you're lucky) when one or both of the "components" in it are unhappy. And here we have to do something. Starting, of course, with yourself.