- Doing what you want in life is not selfishness
To force (impose, manipulate) others to do what you want is selfishness.
- Taking care of your happiness and comfort in life is not selfishness;
Forcing others to take care of your happiness and comfort is selfishness.
- Consistently solving your own life difficulties, keeping your life in the focus of attention is not selfishness;
Constantly complaining and in various ways to attract other people's attention to your life is selfishness.
- To give birth to a child and make him fall in love with life by his example of an active and joyful life (in the field of parenting and beyond) is not selfishness;
To make the child the goal and meaning of his life (to subordinate his life to his interests), to do everything for the sake of the child is selfishness.
- Taking a day off, turning off the phone, canceling a meeting with friends, not picking up the phone, if you don't want to talk to this person now - not selfishness;
To come to the promised meeting, answer an unwanted call and make others the victims of your irritation is selfishness.
- Choosing your interests and yourself, saying “no” and “it doesn't suit me” is not selfishness;
Choosing the interests of another, allowing you to violate your boundaries and blaming loved ones for the fact that your life has gone the wrong way is selfishness.
- Deny another in material, emotional and any other help, if you really feel that you do not have the appropriate resource - not selfishness;
To help another, but to consider him in debt to himself and to be offended when he does not agree to bear this debt - selfishness.
- To ask for help, but to leave another freedom to agree or refuse is not selfishness;
To point out to someone that he is obliged to help you or in other ways to force him to help you is selfishness.
- Do not take on obligations that are not included in the list of your job responsibilities, but do your job with the highest quality - not selfishness;
To burden yourself with other people's tasks, and then secretly or openly hate your job and get angry with your colleagues - selfishness.
- Listening to someone else's opinion, but always acting in your own way is not selfishness;
Relying on the other, even when you feel that it does not work for you, and then in the same way impose your opinion about something on him or blame him for the fact that the solution he proposed did not work - selfishness.
- Choosing yourself is not selfishness;
Choosing someone else to choose you instead is selfishness.
Everything is very simple - SELFISM is what strengthens your codependency and the position of a victim in life.
Not selfishness is everything that makes you the master of your own life. A free, relaxed person, able to choose his own happiness and be responsible for it.
Don't be selfish) Begin to calmly and consistently choose yourself and your life today.