Tsvetaeva said:
in the next world we will not be judged for our actions, but for our intentions - that we thought of our actions. What was the point of putting in ... Grandma Rosa bought tulle curtains with flowers - it was gorgeous, luxurious, incredibly magnificent after the war. She fought and had the right to buy such curtains - right? And her little son stayed at home and cut flowers from the curtains. He strung it on a string somehow - he was just a baby. And I took out this garland to my grandmother. Beauty, grace, hard work! Mom, this is for you! And the stern grandmother, who did not even smile in the photo studio, hugged her son to her chest and shed tears. Indeed, how much labor has been invested! How much love! And the curtains with holes are nonsense. She made gauze, useful in the household. A man does something stupid or buys unnecessary - do not rush to scold him. He had the best, noblest intent sometimes. He wanted the best! The son took all his savings and bought mom a phone. Slippery, uncomfortable, with a lot of unnecessary functions, completely unsuitable for her thing. Instead of fixing your car ... Eh! And mom understands that his intentions were the best! She will emit a quiet joyful scream, grabbing the phone ... And she will listen to how many useful functions it has. Unnecessary to her. So what? The intent is love. In an absurd gift, a tasteless cake, in tickets to a boring performance, in an absurd compliment, even in the remark “where is your scarf?”. And we perfectly feel this intention in the heart - only the heart can feel it. And it so happens sometimes, that in beautiful words, gorgeous gifts, seemingly neutral comments - malicious intent. And the soul does not accept them! Feels poison, as in the poisoned fruit of a terrible taxi driver - he treated people to apples ... So people are generally not fools. And they understand the intentions. And everyone forgives for love: ridiculous gifts, words, deeds ... The main thing is intentions. And in the next world, and in this one!