There is an ancient Persian parable about a man who stood on one leg. I stood for a long time - my leg was numb and hurt. The whole body became numb and sore, the strength dried up, but the man made great efforts and continued to do the "swallow". At the same time, he moaned and complained loudly, asked for help and cried in pain. Kind people ran up and began to help: someone massaged his leg, smeared incense. Someone shouted: “Pull yourself together, rag! You can! You should! ”, Someone suggested remembering childhood and finding the reason in the parents, who were not taught to stand on one leg correctly, someone suggested imagining oneself as a stork. And someone pitifully stroked the patient's head and lamented with him. But the man on one leg was getting worse and worse. The strength left him.

The philosopher passed by. He stopped, looked at all this and said: “You have a second leg, O suffering one! You stand on both feet, so it will be easier for you! "The man got on his other leg and stopped moaning. Indeed, it became easier! And the philosopher went further, not expecting gratitude. Moreover, the assistants swore at him and accused him ...

This is the inventory of resources and their use in a difficult situation. If the situation in personal relationships has become difficult and intolerable, find support at work for now. In his creative activity. Making money. No, the problem needs to be solved, of course. But so far, personal life is not a support. The support must be sought in something else. And if there is a crisis with work, you can find support in the family. In creativity. In love. In children. Transfer the load from the tired leg to the other, stop complaining and complaining. Let your leg rest.

If the situation is tormenting and cannot be resolved in any way, you need to look for support in what you have. If there is only one leg, well, you can just sit down or lie down. This is also a way to rest and stop suffering. And massages, persuasion, analysis of childhood and the rest are useful things, no doubt. But sometimes they are completely meaningless.

What else you have is what you need to rely on. It is there that you need to scoop up the resource. You can completely forget from suffering and effort that you have at least a second leg. Another support. It contains salvation and a resource.