"Oh, how cute you are, you would have eaten you!" or "I can't digest it." The topic of food in relationships got me interested and I started digging deeper. It turned out that psychoanalysts quite a long time ago combined the theme of, say, physical hunger and hunger in relationships.
There are many reported cases of psychological rejection of food or overeating due to loneliness.
"The patient is hungry, but rejects both food and people. He can only eat alone."
"One patient says that whenever her husband comes, she immediately feels hungry and needs to eat. In fact, she feels hunger for him, but does not dare to show it."
Many psychoanalysts believe that all close relationships are perceived as "eating, swallowing", and therefore too dangerous to risk having them. First of all, they are dangerous because, in the words of Fairbairn: "It is impossible to eat your cake and at the same time have it in front of you." Such a hungry, greedy, consuming, swallowing, incorporating attitude leads to deep fears that the real external object will be lost. This anxiety about the destruction and loss of the love object due to overwhelming hunger is very strong.
On the other hand, fears associated with an insatiable feeling of "hunger" in relation to objects of love is akin to fear that other people also want to "swallow" us.
In a word, we have a deep and interesting psychological theory about the connection between hunger, loneliness, intimacy, love, revealed to us through the description of clinical cases.
So, do you want to eat me?