The nutritionist said: “Understand, if you do not change your diet, you will not lose weight. Never".
I hiccuped quietly in amazement.
It could not even have occurred to her that one of these puny girls might NOT WANT to lose weight. Or that someone of a different body size may be satisfied with their weight. In her picture of the world, everyone, without exception, wanted to lose weight. Women, men, children, cats, dogs and budgerigars.
The nutritionist categorically banned all white buns and homemade cakes. Then she forbade eating fruit after 6 pm. Then she forbade everything else. She repeated several times that "as long as we allow ourselves to eat carbohydrates, fats do not go away." Why and where did the fats absolutely necessary for our body have to go? In the meantime, she noticed how wonderful it is to replace dinner with a protein shake. I drank - and the whole evening is free. She noted the undoubted benefits of bran, this panacea for all diseases.
The dietitian was unaware of the current research that eating fat does not lead to weight gain. I also didn't know that fats are absolutely necessary for the hormonal and nervous system to work. She existed in a world where a war was going on with fats, senseless and merciless.
This is a very specific world where you need to purposefully pump up your buttocks. Strive for the coveted biceps relief. Download abs cubes. Where is a pumped and well-dried body with a clear lack of weight - the purest charm, the purest sample.
You just need to reach the sample, and everyone will go nuts. Will appreciate. Will love. In this world, you are, by definition, not good enough for others - and you need to give up yourself in order to become like another.
Like an ideal.
So you have no right to be good enough for yourself either. How is it - everyone is happy? How is it - hips suit?!
You cannot relax in such a world. Here all the time you need to be in tension (they call it "in good shape"), all the time it is painful to compare yourself with others and prove, prove, prove that you are worthy of love. Because if not to endure torment for the sake of love, then for what else?
And this, you know, is a monstrous lie, because the willingness to give up our own body in order to turn it into something else does not bring us one step closer to love. Moreover, in passing we deprive ourselves of our love. There is nothing to love yourself, imperfect. Disgusting, untidy, ugly, fat.
The moment comes when you stop evaluating your body. Suddenly you exhale at once and find that your body has long been in need of elementary care, like an exhausted stray cat. He should be fed and stroked a little. It also deserves gratitude and attention. You know, people figure it out in different ways. Someone needs to overwork to a nervous breakdown or go to the hospital. And someone is lucky - he meets people who like his body. I just like it, without any ratings. It happens the same.
You know what the coach shouted at one of my first trainings: “Girls, sucked in your stomach! The belly is gone! We have no belly! "
And what a great pity I felt at that moment for this “disappeared” belly. To this belly capable of bearing children. Containing the intestines, pancreas, liver, kidneys. Yes, a lot of useful things that require attention and care. All this, obviously, had to disappear, disappear somewhere along with the belly - but the hell, why?
We don't even notice how we agree to erase ourselves piece by piece for the sake of a fitness trainer or a made-up standard. Cross out the belly. Betray your hips. Turn away from your hands. Sometimes the whole body can "disappear" and only the face remains. And then we find ourselves paralyzed in all areas of life - in relationships, in work. There is not even enough strength to travel. A head without a body cannot have sex (ok, maybe, but very limited), which means that it cannot have a full-fledged relationship. One head, devoid of support in the form of a body, arms and legs, cannot work.
Therefore, take care, love the body and yourself ... This is so important for you personally.
And they love it not for the perfect body, right?