What to do after you have heard or seen the unpleasant
In life, one has to see and hear unpleasant, hard, even terrible things. It can't be helped, that's life. It is impossible to shut up your ears and close your eyes, although, to be honest, impressionable adults sometimes do this - during a scary movie. Or quickly switch the channel. And in life there is no switch button. And we voluntarily listen to the sad and tragic stories of people. Friends, acquaintances, relatives ... Or we listen to the complaints of patients and sympathize. We see their suffering. Or we learn from the media about a tragic incident and feel sympathy. We are people. It's okay to hear, see, know, participate.

But it’s so bad afterwards! We constantly think about what we think. This affects our mood and ultimately our health. And what can happen is that a similar story will happen to us. Illness, accident, injury ... Why? And because we subconsciously got involved in someone else's script. We kind of said to ourselves: “This can happen to anyone! Nobody is immune. Life is unpredictable! ". Actually, sympathy happens because we imagine ourselves in the place of another. And there is only one step from the presentation to the real embodiment of the event. Especially if you are an impressionable person.

We need to help and sympathize. But there is still a "magic button" for switching channels. Even the children know her. There is such a childish saying: I saw a dead dove, for example, I must quickly say: “pah-pah-pah three times, not my infection!”. Funny? A little funny. But this is the moment of mental hygiene. We recognize that this is not our situation. Not our destiny. What happened has nothing to do with us. This is not our story, this is the sad story of another person. It doesn't belong to us.

We will provide assistance if needed. If necessary, we will express our indignation or support. We will take part, if necessary. But sometimes nothing depends on us at all, we saw something unpleasant, scary on the network or on TV ... And we must immediately, as quickly as possible, realize: this is not our story. We have our own destiny. Your life path. We do not take this unpleasant story for ourselves and do not imprint it in the subconscious. To capture is to seal. Accept. And this is not necessary.

So tell yourself mentally: “This is not my story. Alien. I do not take it myself! ". And this is enough to protect the vulnerable soul. And save energy for active help if needed. The doctor cannot think about every patient for days, he will lose his ability to work. And the doctor is obliged to apply safety measures against infection. So it is with a kind impressionable person. We need to switch to constructive activity. And continue to live and work. And the switch "button" is easy to press. "This is not mine!" - Give yourself a mental order and explanation. This is enough for self-preservation.