Let me just say that the previous post on "Men not writing back and some of the reasons why they don't" was a good post and an important one; with an emphasis more on the ladies than men.
My post too is directed more towards the ladies than the men; but not exclusively. I, too, have been splashed with wave of women asking me, and sometime demanding me, why I have not written them. The previous post mentioned above delves into some of those reasons. I am more interested in correcting, or even exposing, those women who are playing games when they ask or demand replies.
There have been quite a number of women who have told me( and promised) that they would be visiting me in the very near future(Spring and early Summer). Now, if that is the case, then very concrete actions would have taken or need to be taken; not least of which is to be able to communicate personally. That means contacting the man by phone,text,email, etc. Not just by letters and/or chat sessions through the site; even though that is useful. So ladies, if there are some of you out there who are serious and genuine in being in a real relationship with a foreign man from the site, there are a number of attitudes and actions you need to consider and do.

1. Let the man know that you are serious and genuine; but more than that, take the action!
Writing letters and chatting for a month or two at most. After that you should be getting more personal, which means you need to get his personal info or you share yours; which more likely would mean giving permission to him to get it from the agency. Courage him in doing this if he hasn't already done so.
It is a big red flag that after sending letters for more than 2 months and the lady is not desiring to be more personally involved and communicate in such a way means she is playing games. Get Talking and texting, or emailing with each other! If it doesn't work out or you have doubts to the sincerity or the character of the person you are communicating with, respectfully call it quits and not to phone, email etc. you.
Ladies, if you are still just sending letters and wanting chat sessions with a man, even after 6 months( I know, some women who are doing that even almost a year now). DO NOT EXPECT THE MAN TO SEND YOU LETTERS AND CHAT! Unless you made it clear that you just want to play the field. Which is fine so long as you are honest and upfront about that!!

2. Set up a time frame to either a) have the gentleman visit you, or b) you visiting the man. Flexibility is okay, due to work schedules, time off etc. But indefinite plans is a big red flag and no man(or woman for that matter) should put up with such games; unless they were honest about doing that. I've had too many women claim that they are visiting but nothing very concrete planned, just ambiguous statements and declarations that they really want to visit this year. I certainly do not mind going to visit a lady in Ukraine, but that is a bit out of the question at the moment until the political situation calms down a bit! Which I really hope it does!!
It is important that you be specific about when you are going to meet. To say in the Spring is okay, even better is to say April 27th or something like that. It shows you mean business and are sincere. Vagueness is not helpful and is suspicious in regards to intentions and a big red flag.

A lady who has the gentleman's personal contact info or has been contacted by him because she allowed that and desired it, and is visiting her man and has specific times and plans to visit; is a lady who is quite genuine and real. She is a diamond among cubic zirconia! I know, as I have one who is doing just this and showing that she desires real love and commitment!! And a great sense of discovery and journeying!!
I do hope ladies that there are enough of you out there who can find or be open to the right man on this site. If you do, MAKE SURE YOU COMMUNICATE TO HIM THAT YOU ARE SERIOUS, AND THAT MEANS GETTING OR ALLOWING PERSONAL/PRIVATE CONTACT INFO, AND SETTING A REALISTIC TIMEFRAME TO EITHER HAVE HIM VISIT YOU OR YOU VISIT HIM.
That is all I have to say for now in this post; though there are other things worth mentioning but will save for a later time. I will be checking to see if these Lessons have been digested and learned; or if they have been ignored. Help Life and Love out by respecting them, that is all. Thanks for reading!