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Many ladies, on this site, seem to have difficulty finding a good man; what probably could, should be done about this
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Well, yes, a very difficult question, I find.
I humbly believe that many ladies, on this site, shouldn’t take this situation personally, as they’re fine ladies who, I think, under normal circumstances, in normal places, probably would have no big problems finding a good, honest, respectful, caring and loving man, full of humanness, a gentleman.
I’d say that you, ladies, are sort of victims of a very difficult situation: A lack, shortage, it seems, where you live, of good men, gentlemen, a serious imbalance.
And, for you, the problem isn’t a theoretical one; it’s a very actual, practical, short-term one.
I don’t pretend to be able to make miracles, here, as this seems to me to be a societal problem, maybe even a problem that goes beyond your society, country, a problem of a region (or of regions) of the world, during a certain period, or at a certain time.
As always, trying to understand this problem, the causes of this problem, is of paramount importance on the path to finding solutions to it.
The bad news, first
At this point, I still don’t really have good solutions to the short-term aspect of this important problem.
But then, I’m not one to give up easily, fast.
Possible (partial) solutions
- Looking for a handsome, sexy man may not lead you to a good man, a gentleman; there are some not so handsome, sexy men who are quite good men, gentlemen; it wouldn’t seem wise for you to overlook them.
- As the numbers seem against you, at this point, where you live, if you find a somewhat good man, a somewhat gentleman, it would seem wise for you to do reasonable efforts to keep him (without kneeling in front of him, though, so to speak; a woman and a man are equal, though different; they need, complement each other) (easier said than done, though, I know).
- Doing what you’re doing, looking for a good man, gentleman, elsewhere than in your country, region (and not just in the US, Canada), may be a good idea, solution, but certainly not an easy one.
The somewhat good news, now
More and more people, it seems, are getting aware of, and working on solutions to, the long-term aspect of this important problem.
Using maybe Google Search, look exactly for:
- Pew Research Center Why the former USSR has far fewer men than women AUGUST 14, 2015
It says, there, that, in 2015, there were 86.8 men per 100 women in Russia, 86.3, in Ukraine, 98.0 in Canada, and in the US; in the world,
it was 101.8.
The life-expectancy (at birth) gap (in years), 2010-2015, was 11.4 (female, 75.6, male, 64.2) in Russia, 9.9 (female, 75.7, male, 65.7)
in Ukraine; it was 4.5 (female, 72.7, male, 68.3) in the world (numbers may not perfectly add beause of roundings).
The life expectancy (at birth), both sexes combined, was 69.8, in Russia, 70.7, in Ukraine, 81.8, in Canada, 79.8, in the US; it was 70.5
in the world.
- The Guardian The dating gap: why the odds are stacked against female graduates finding a like-minded man 10 Nov 2015
- Wall Street Journal A Good Man Is Getting Even Harder to Find Oct. 4, 2019
- Washington Post Too many men April 18, 2018
In China and India, compared to Russia and Ukraine, the situation is inverted; men outnumbered women by 70 million, /
at the date of the study.
Both nations are belatedly trying to come to grips with the policies that created this male-heavy generation.
Needless to say, there are many, many people in those two countries alone (more than 2,600,000,000, now).
Bottom line
We certainly sympathize with you.
The more and more we’ll be looking for good solutions to this important problem, the sooner we should find some.
OK, now, who is the smart lady who stole my cookies… Sigh… (Wink!)