Because you don't love yourself. And do not love others. You have no experience of self-love. And to others. And what you, like most other people, mistake for love is neurotic attachment in order to get rid of loneliness. It is bitter. But it's true.

And self-love does not begin with mantras, not with visualizations. Self-love begins with humility. With the recognition of their equivalence. That you are as important in this world as any other person. No better, no worse - equivalent. Your thoughts, your desires, your feelings are as important as the thoughts, feelings and desires of other people.

Self-love, like love for others, begins with recognition. With self-recognition. And with recognizing others. Your capabilities and your weaknesses. With a desire to hear yourself. Ask yourself the question: what do I want here and now? What can I give myself here and now? Do not wait for a salary, a successful year, the happiest day. But right here and now, what can I do for myself? And for others. More often than not, it turns out that right now you need hugs, warmth and support.