Psychologists identify several main reasons why people get divorced. Here are, in their opinion, the most important ones.
GETTING MARRIED TOO QUICKLY
FINANCIAL PROBLEMS.
TREASON.
DECREASED LIBIDO.
CHEATING ON YOUR PARTNER.
Today I want to discuss the first reason and how you can avoid it.People fall in love and sometimes immediately go to get married to give official status to their happiness. But when the euphoria ends, newlyweds are surprised: why didn't they notice before that they are so different?
A mismatch in personal interests and outlook on life ruins 12 percent of marriages, according to data. Another 32% of those surveyed quarrel with their spouse because of this. It may seem easier not to marry someone who has a different perspective on the things that are important to you. But differing perspectives aren't a reason to bury a relationship. Here's what you can do.
Live together without getting married. You will get invaluable practice in living together before marriage.You will find out how tolerant you can be of your partner's behaviors, and which of those behaviors are unacceptable to you. If you live together before marriage, you will have to manage your household and your budget together. This way, you will have more time to learn how to cooperate and solve various problems together.
You'll be able to explore each other's sexual needs. If you want, intimacy can be at least every day. If you need more breaks, however, it's better to figure out such details before you get married.
Living together will give you a better idea of how your partner is used to spending money. When you start living together, finances come to the forefront.
You'll have to agree on who will pay for joint purchases and utility bills, and find common ground on expenses. Perhaps one of you is saving every month in the bank, and the other used to spend every penny of your salary.
All of these important points, it is better to know before marriage. But if you are already married, you only have to admit that you are different and that's okay.
Each of you has the right to hold the views you choose. A difference of opinion doesn't mean that one of you is better or worse, and it doesn't make you enemies. It can be difficult to accept, though: Because of the traps of thinking, we divide people into insiders and outsiders, and we treat the latter with prejudice.