If you can discuss everything with your partner, everything in general, without condemnation, without suppression, without devaluation and ridicule, without subsequent recollections, without accusations, then you are very lucky or you are ripe to be in a relationship of love and harmony.

My practice shows that people who have love between them can talk for hours about everything in the world. Doubts, worries, uncertainty, hopes... There are no taboo topics, including former relationships and nuances of physiology.

Real intimacy is about being open with others as with yourself. This does not mean that you have to constantly live wide open (we all need privacy and personal space from time to time), it means that when you are ready and want to share, another person adjusts and is ready to listen to you. With a desire to understand. With sympathy. With support.

He may have his own opinion and may even disagree with you, but he will not analyze your unstable state even more. He will wait for the best moment or choose the right words to convey his idea without hooking you.

Careful attitude is what characterizes healthy intimacy. "I shouldn't be a source of pain for a loved one." Always affection and tenderness. Even disagreement is mild.

The one who loves counts with your feelings. If you're angry, it means you're in pain, and he understands that. "It's okay, I love you."

The one who loves will not go where your suffering lives. Because he feels you, and it will hurt him exactly the same. It's like hurting yourself. Mutual feeling.

For someone who loves, it is important that a loved one can develop, can realize their dreams, can count on understanding and support in all life situations.

A loved one should be happy. This is the cement of a healthy relationship, if both think so in a couple.

If someone torments you, then it doesn't hurt him when it hurts you. It's obvious, isn't it? If he steps on what is important to you and does not want to listen to your arguments, then your happiness does not matter to him. Is that clear? If he, seeing your feelings, continues to spin you into even greater emotions, does this not indicate his indifference? Who does he love and who is he thinking about at the moment?

If you can't communicate with a loved one as with yourself, then you don't have another close person besides yourself.