But there is good news. "You've had plenty of time to figure out what you really want," says Kira Malynina, a family psychologist. - "If you've used the previous decades for personal development, at age 40 and older you are a great 'catch.' Now that you are successful in your career, you have a job you love, you are established as a mother, you can be a good friend, you know who you really are, more than ever. Age definitely plays in your favor. Because at maturity, when you have years of experience under your belt, it's easier to separate the grains from the chaff. By the time we reach forty, we are more interested in partnerships that develop and strengthen us, rather than those that, drain our energy and distract us from achieving goals and responsibilities."

So where do we start with these relationships?

Of course, we'd all like to tell our grandchildren the gripping story of your romantic encounter, worthy of a melodrama plot. The reality is that most couples find each other in social networks or special dating sites. In fact, registration on such sites is not a bad idea. Communicating online, you can get to know your potential partner better before meeting in person. You should make an honest profile and be clear about what you want. For example, if your goal is to start a family, mention that so you don't waste anyone else's time and your own.

When you're on an active search, leading a busy personal life and making new acquaintances regularly, it's possible to eventually get fed up. If the thought that tonight there will be another date for the hundredth time over a cup of coffee to tell your life story to a potential suitor leads you to despondency, then it's time to pause. Remembering this, you will gain more confidence, and your chances of achieving the goal will increase.