Reason 1️⃣: Get Married / Be in a Relationship for the Right Reasons 💍🎩👰🏻‍♀️🤵🏻‍♂️

Many of those who have already divorced and remarried explain that first marriages ended in divorce because they were entered into for the wrong reasons. They can be very different: pressure from relatives and friends; the feeling that it is time for you to settle down; the desire to be a beautiful couple, because you look good together; a naive thought, as if with a sweet paradise and in a hut ... All this seems logical. But only it seems, because there can be only one reason for marriage: you should just want to be close to this person - that's what people with experience say.

The only thing that really works is sincere admiration for each other. But, as is often the case, getting married in order for someone to make you happy is straight forward to codependency. And this has never been good for anyone.

Reason 2️⃣: Don't have false hopes 🙅🏻‍♀️💭❌

Often, lovers, entering into marriage, think that they will always keep their feelings sharp, and when the intensity of emotions subsides, they think that the family is falling apart. Love is a strange thing. When the head is spinning, we are ready to forgive the partner for any mistakes and turn a blind eye to shortcomings. But it will not last forever, at most - a few years. And then the puppy delight with which we look into the eyes of a loved one disappears. And as soon as the thrill of love passes, there is no need to think that love has passed and you are on the verge of divorce. You just need to learn to love a person as he is, respect him and be glad that he is around.

True love is a choice: to be with a person, despite the circumstances, despite the fact that he does not always make you happy. It's difficult, but it's also valuable.

Reason 3️⃣: The most important thing in a relationship is respect. ❗️🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♂️❤️

People who have been married for 10-15 years most often say that the most important thing for a strong relationship is to communicate with each other and talk frankly about everything that matters. However, those who have 20, 30, 40 years of marriage behind them say that the most important thing is respect for each other.

The fact is that conflicts in couples are inevitable, and we will hurt each other's feelings, no matter how much we want to avoid it. And the only thing that will help you stay together is mutual respect, the feeling that you value each other above all else, trust each other and trust that your partner will do what is best for both of you. Just do not forget that you also need to respect yourself. Both you and the other half.

Reason 4️⃣: Be Frank About Everything 🗣💬📣

And yet you need to talk, especially about what hurts you. If something doesn't suit you in a relationship, you should definitely say it: when we talk frankly, it creates a sense of trust, which creates intimacy. It can be painful, but you still need to do it, because no one will fix your relationship but you.

Trust is also needed in order to cope with such an unpleasant feeling as jealousy. We all need to understand that a partner may have other interests, they can communicate with other people, and it is not worth getting angry when you see that they are talking to someone else.

Reason 5️⃣ Healthy Relationships Happen to Healthy Individuals 🦾👫🧘🏻‍♀️🧘🏻‍♂️❤️

In any marriage, something has to be sacrificed for the sake of the other person. But the problem is that if the relationship is maintained only because someone gives up their interests for the sake of another, sooner or later it will end in a breakup. A relationship based on sacrifice is doomed.

Healthy happy relationships can only be maintained by healthy happy individuals. The key word is "personality". This means that people should have their own ideas about themselves, personal interests, their own hobbies to which they devote time.

EXPECT TO BE CONTINUED IN THE NEXT POST...❤️