🟢Reason #6: Leave free space for each other 💆🏻‍♀️💆🏻‍♂️🧖🏻‍♀️🧘🏻‍♂️

One of the most important things in a relationship is not to completely merge with each other. The secret of success is different bank accounts, different credit cards, different friends and hobbies. Even holidays can be spent separately. Some of those who gave advice to newlyweds even suggest using separate bathrooms and toilets, but this is difficult to do in Russia.

It sounds strange - indeed, many are afraid to let go of their partner and give him freedom. And all because people lack trust - they are not confident in themselves and their relationships. It often seems to us that if we let a loved one go somewhere on their own, it will turn out that he no longer needs us. Unfortunately, the inability to let go of a partner means that we do not respect him. And this means that we do not respect ourselves. After all, is it really possible to seriously think that a wife or husband will be taken away from us at a corporate party?

🟢Reason #7: Be prepared to change. 💇🏻‍♀️✈️💡

When people have been married for more than 20 years, they may discover how much they have changed from what they were two decades ago. Be prepared for the fact that in 20 years you will wake up and find that the person who lies next to you is not at all the same as before, and here you will need to learn to love him.

Of course, this will happen if you allow your other half to be yourself, mind your own business and develop in your own direction - and you yourself will do it too. But when you change, do not forget to discuss what is happening to you - then you will be able to both respect and accept each other.

🟢Reason #8: Learn to fight properly 🗣🙅🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️💆🏻‍♂️

We already know that quarrels in a couple are inevitable, but you need to sort things out correctly. There are a few rules that must not be broken. First of all, you can not criticize the personal qualities of a partner: no “you are dumb / dumb” - only “you are doing stupid things”. You should not take a defensive position in the conflict, like “I would not have done/did it if you hadn’t…”. It is forbidden to impose a feeling of guilt on a partner. And, of course, you can’t refuse if a loved one wants to speak out: running away from a quarrel with the words “that’s it, I’m not going to discuss it” is the right way to break off relations.

🟢Reason #9: Master the Art of Forgiving 🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻👫❤️

It's hard to believe, but even in the strongest families there are insoluble contradictions. There are problems about which we will never agree with each other, and the only way out in this case is to come to terms with it. And it is also a matter of respect for each other.

The fact is that if we allow each other to remain themselves, then we will inevitably have different positions on some issues. Political views, for example: yes, there are couples who broke up because of different views on Russia's position on Crimea or Syria, but honestly, how can you get divorced because the person you love votes for or against Putin? You cannot impose your opinion on another person, and if you are trying to do this, then you do not respect him.

🟢Reason #10 . Allow yourself small pleasures. 🧘🏻‍♀️🧘🏻‍♂️🧖🏻‍♀️🧖🏻💅🏼💇🏻‍♀️

Going to the movies together, having lunch together during working hours, going out on weekends - these are seemingly small things, but they are what make you a family. If you devote all your time only to the joint arrangement of life, go to hypermarkets for shopping on weekends, and discuss bills and payments at dinner, sooner or later you will turn from spouses into neighbors.

Pay attention to the little things: holding hands at the movies, saying “I love you” to each other before bed, remembering to close the tube of toothpaste or throwing things around if it annoys your partner – all this will help you once again emphasize what you value and respect him.


❗️❗️CONCLUSIONS❗️❗️

✔️ 1. Long-term stable relationships are work. It’s not that we don’t know this, but when you are in love and think that you will spend your whole life with this person, you somehow can’t believe that sooner or later the sharpness of feelings will go away and you will find yourself face to face with a real person: with your interests and hobbies.

✔️ 2. A family will always stay strong if you give each other the right to be themselves, including spending time with your friends, having personal hobbies and your own political views.

✔️ 3. The most important thing in a relationship is respect and trust in each other. These things, of course, are interconnected - one cannot exist without the other. Know how to let go of your partner: do not cling to him with a stranglehold. You do not want the person with you to be so stuffy that he leaves?