In childhood, we were taught how bad it is to be selfish. We like to condemn those who say “I love myself,” “I exist only for myself,” “I can buy everything for me just to feel good.” But what is there so bad, if we spoil ourselves a little? According to the psychologist’s opinion – lack of love for ourselves often is the main reason for the things that in life do not go as we wished.

To the question of whether we love ourselves, each one of us would probably give an affirmative answer. Of course, no one deliberately wishes to harm and to maltreat themselves. However, on the subconscious level, many of us have a low self-appraisal.

“I’m so clumsy, unhappy, stupid, and unattractive!” – how often you have thought like this? If often, then it means that you have a big problem to love yourself. The paradox lies in the fact that peers usually notice why they treat us like that.

Have you met women who are neither beautiful nor attractive, nor too smart. However, they all have good family life, work and in other areas everything is all right? Because they glow with love from themselves, and they are confident. Why cannot you take the example from them?

If you are used to sacrifice yourself all the time, then it is unlikely the thing that will make you happy. People will cruelly use you, instead of loving and respecting you. Usually people love those who love themselves!

Let’s draw a line between selfishness in its ordinary meaning, and love for yourself. About selfish people, they say: “From her in the winter you should never expect snow”. To such women, it does not make any sense to ask for something, because they do not do anything if it is not beneficial to them. They always say that they are not interested in other people. They judge upon the situation guided only by their interests, and not by the other people’s interests. If she feels discomfort, she loudly expresses her dissatisfaction. He likes to hold forth what others should do for her, but about what she should do for others – it is out of a question.

The person who loves herself maintains self-respect, does not let to be destroyed or ignores her own interests. She is trying to make her life more comfortable. She does not spare money even for food, clothing, and traveling, if it allows her to feel happy. She tries to look good, and she takes care of her health.

Good attitude to yourself does not mean that she is indifferent towards other people. On the contrary, seeing that we love ourselves, appreciate our appearance, health, and attempt to provide as much fun as possible, then other people around will seek for your company too. A person who loves herself is often able to give her warmth to others!!