1️⃣Step One: Analyze Your Behavior Patterns
If you're constantly choosing a partner who cheats or mistreats you, then Muir's advice is to be "radically honest" and admit it. “In such cases, you need to work on self-esteem and increase it to the understanding that you are worthy of a person who treats you well,” she says.

Dr. Manley explains that low self-esteem has a negative effect on the ability to verify a potential soul mate. Instead of noticing the warning signals, we ignore them, stepping on the same rake again. “If someone from childhood believes that he does not deserve much, then he will subconsciously look for people who will prove that these beliefs are true,” says Muir.

2️⃣Step two: work on yourself
To heal from betrayal, Dr. Manley explains, you need to slow down and consciously work on yourself. It’s not enough to just say, “It’s not my fault!” Self-reflection and efforts aimed at increasing self-confidence will be required. And this requires strength, time and, possibly, help. First of all, people with low self-esteem will need it - and it doesn’t matter if these are childhood problems or the result of a recent toxic relationship.

3️⃣Step Three: Practice Trust in Other Relationships
Perhaps it is no longer possible to return it to a partner. But just living and building a marriage without trust is very difficult, and therefore you should work to bring it back, not to this person, but to people in general. Muir says that friendship is a great place to start doing that. “Practice openness with close friends, share experiences with them and ask for their support,” she says.

In the next part, we will learn three more steps to take after cheating!