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Relationships at a distance
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SHOULD YOU START A DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?
As a rule, all romantic relationships initially are distance relationships. Nowadays, no one starts dating with a wedding and living together. The first meeting and initial communication increasingly takes place on the Internet, and not in the real world. A period of getting to know each other, coupled with the search for common ground. In this sense, relationships at a distance, in essence, are not so different from the face-to-face format. Perhaps it is worth noting that when communicating at a distance, the effect of rose colored glasses can be more pronounced. Otherwise, long distance relationships are just as capable of giving us a cocktail of very different, sometimes conflicting sensations and emotions, for which we are looking for a romantic partner: euphoria, delight, surprise, doubt, fear, rage, happiness.
But after a while, partners in whatever format they meet, the question invariably arises: WHAT'S NEXT?

IS IT WORTH CONTINUING A DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?

In what cases should you doubt:
• Do you mutually take the initiative to communicate?
• Are your interests and needs taken into account in the communication?
• Do you often feel embarrassed, ashamed, or afraid when interacting with this person?
• Does your partner respect your point of view, especially if it differs from his/her point of view?
• Do you often have to give up your plans in order to meet a person, while he does not meet your halfway?
• Can you be yourself/himself in communication with him/her and feel comfortable doing so?
• Do you often see the coincidence of these promises and their implementation, can you trust a person and his actions?
If most of the answers to these questions are “no”, then there is a very good chance that long distance relationships will not develop into a closer format. This is due to the fact that the person with whom you begin to communicate has a clearly expressed priority of his own needs, neglecting yours. In such conditions, it is almost impossible to build a good relationship.

WHY START ONLINE DATING?
The most popular way to start a romantic relationship remotely is on dating sites. Before we go any further, it is important to understand the purposes for which you enter into such communication. If this is an expansion of the circle of friends, unobtrusive correspondence for entertainment, then you probably will not be faced with the task of getting to know the person in depth. If you are looking for more serious interactions and want to build real relationships that will eventually develop into family ones. In this case, nuances begin to appear that are worth paying attention to.

HOW TO MAINTAIN A DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP
Let's be honest: it's not easy. First of all, because any serious relationship requires a predictable prospect, if not a life together, then the possibility of regular meetings live. It is very important for a couple to have common goals in the future, to make common plans.
In a distance relationship, there must be an element of hope for compatibility - without this, they quickly fade away. It is impossible to imagine a long distance relationship in which partners do not live together at all even from time to time and have nothing in common in the physical, real world.
Try to discuss the plans of each of you and look for intersections: if we are talking about weekends or vacations, try to figure out where to really spend this time together.
Long distance relationships are always a challenge.

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