Open up to what is in front of you

It has been proven that online dating is successful, millions meet and get married using websites, but this does not mean that this is the only way to communicate.

On the one hand, we build digital fortresses around ourselves and lock ourselves in them. But on the other hand, nowadays there are more and more festivals, dance evenings and other events during which people gather, have fun and enjoy communicating with each other. Pay attention to those you see every day:

Challenge yourself, overcome the discomfort and turn to the person who smiled at you in the subway, in a cafe or in the next seat on the plane.
Have a few words with someone, using different reasons - spring slush, a late train, the need to attach a puppy. All these cases open up opportunities to interact in reality.
If the need to talk to a stranger makes you nervous, come up with a question or a story about something that interests you in advance to start a conversation.
Life always offers new opportunities. Stay open and be prepared to be surprised.

Ask yourself: Am I postponing the meeting?

Online dating is becoming a form of entertainment for some. There is a charm in exchanging messages, waiting with bated breath for a phone call, composing witty letters at two in the morning.

Tessa's question indicates that the inability to meet a person face to face can quickly lead to disappointment. But Anna could also ask herself if she is slowing down herself.

The tactics of procrastination on the principle of "it's hot, it's cold" are well described and easily executed online. This can happen for a number of inexplicable reasons: maybe the other person doesn't really want a date or just feels uncomfortable when meeting in person.

Do not deny yourself this exciting game: flirt and tease a potential partner with words, but try to bring the date closer in reality. Send a message: "I like online chats, but it's even better to talk on the phone, here's my number." A conversation on the phone will quickly tell you if you want to meet with this interlocutor. If you are in the mood for a meeting, make an appointment at your favorite cafe and specify the time. You don't lose anything at the same time.

How to move from online dating to a real meeting

Take breaks

Many people with whom I spoke at first experience a feeling of excitement when communicating online, but it is quickly replaced by disappointment, boredom, fatigue. Moreover, many feel defeated when their expectations are not met. Remember that we can take a break at our discretion.

You can log out. And this does not mean that you stop getting to know each other — you are still open to the possibility of meeting someone at a concert, or on the bus, or on the way to meet a friend. Do not scold yourself: take the break not as a confession of failure, but simply as a temporary change of scenery.

Involve your friends

My recently divorced friend sent an email to all his friends saying that he was ready for new dates. Since we are all his friends, we know what he likes and what he doesn't, which people he finds attractive, what his interests and hobbies are. We care about his happiness in his personal life, and we are all ready to take part in it.

Send an email to your friends and ask them to introduce you to their acquaintances or arrange a date for you. When I help someone arrange a date, I always say that I can't promise them "chemistry", but I can promise that they won't have to be bored and ask themselves: "What am I doing here anyway?"