Obviously, character is a form of behavior so hopefully you know I am not suggesting you observe character directly. A widely used indicator of behavior is “Does the individual go to church”. I feel this can give you misleading information if you acknowledge that the individual could go to church simply for the social reason to show you, he has good character. To get around this problem, you need to determine why he goes to church. This information can usually be extracted by again observing his behavior. First ask yourself “How do you know he goes to church?” Did he tell you he goes to church? This will usual ly be the case. Then ask yourself a second question, “Why did he tell you he goes to church?” If you were told by this individual that he goes to church that means he was bragging about it. And if he was bragging about going to church, he was doing it for social reasons and that social reason is usually to convince you he has good character. If this individual goes to church as a strategy to convince you he has good character this usually mean the reverse is the case and the individual has low character.
An example I have seen in my life was a good Catholic and went to church every Sunday. Who also was part of a gang (group of adult men who transported drug). But the big indicator of his character was when he got his wife committed to a mental institution for insanity because he did not like California divorce laws. In the mental institution her psychologist got wise to his BS and started working to protect her. He then worked very hard to get her psychologist changed. It did not happen. The real problem was she was a true good Catholic and refused to get a divorce. See what can happen when you follow someone else’s rules. I saw a case of poetic justice when a several years later he developed Alzheimer’s disease. My conclusion was perhaps there is a God that works to punish the wicked.
Within the dating and pickup community there exist the concept of nice guy. By dating and pickup community, I am referring collectively to online vendors selling products to help he meet, marry, and seduce women. This is a major problem and industry. Surprise, surprise. Generally, women do not like nice guys. Nice guys use a seduction strategy that is counterproductive. They act like a sexual being where the idea of sex was furthest from their mind and just try to be helpful. The women immediately see that this is a lie because no normal man is an a sexual being. Besides then how can you flirt. I see flirting first as an acknowledgement that both men and women are sexual being and have a sex drive and the push pull strategy as the romantic dance. The nice guy since he perceives himself as always nice, he is generally unable to observe his own not nice behavior and as a result he can be less nice than the normal guy who acknowledges that he can do not nice things.
So, if you are a guy, always acknowledge and be a sexual being and do not try to bribe the woman you are interested in to give sexual favors by your niceness.
So, if you are a woman, you are right to avoid nice guys and instead select a man who is always a sexual being and has a good concept of his boundaries.
when he is not nice.