Have you ever wondered where bad relationships come from?
Surely each of us has fallen in love many times. First love in kindergarten. Then school love. Love at the university.... And then we grow up! And our "love" turns into the fulfillment of many criteria. Each of us creates a whole list, a list of items that your partner must complete so that you understand that this is "love"

I will briefly describe the problems of relations between the halves. This is a vicious circle, under the magical and destructive influence of which many people fall.

Women's mistakes in relationships:

A woman, when she lacks protection and a man's shoulder, first asks him to do something for her. And if a man does not satisfy her needs, she feels unnecessary, unprotected, without support. Therefore, she soon moves on to claims from the position: “come on, quickly got up and ran.” Often this is accompanied by such phrases: “You can’t do anything”, “You must say that you love me”, “A real man always buys beautiful things for a woman, you must take care of me.” According to this scenario, unsuccessful relationships between a man and a woman begin to develop.

And over time, if a man reacts very passively, she switches to consumption, pumping money, care, an apartment, a car out of him in possible and impossible ways. The funny thing is that it all started with a simple and natural need for security and protection. Since the woman did not receive this, she is looking for a way to make up for her deficit with a vengeance in all honest and dishonest ways.

Male mistakes in relationships:

He almost openly says to the woman: “I don’t owe you anything”, “You won’t get anything from me”, “Take care of yourself and your children”, “You are nobody to me”. With these words, he confirms his painful experience that in the life of a woman he does not occupy the important place for which nature prepared him.

A woman feels that she is not protected and cannot count on the right to be the only one, she starts the same thing, but in other ways, demands even more. She lashes out at him with tantrums, demands and claims. He retreats and attacks back.

All these adult relationships are "true love"

Thus begins a bloodless war with numerous psychological traumas and mental losses. What to do?

Let's go back to where I started… Don't you think that true love is when all these criteria become unimportant, when you feel like a child next to your loved one? When you can say whatever you want without thinking. When you can run around in circles and sincerely laugh, like in childhood, because you think it's funny?

I concluded for myself that unsuccessful relationships are when we choose a person who meets our criteria, and not someone who makes it possible to feel like a child.