According to experts, our minds literally shut down, and so does our bodies, and they become increasingly indifferent to things that remain the same for an extended period of time. For example, when you first saw your partner naked, you probably experienced pleasant emotions, but over time it has become a routine thing for you.
Or remember your "candy-bouquet" period, when your loved one seemed like an unreal dream. You couldn't take your eyes off of him, every touch was intoxicating, kisses and intimacy made you dizzy, and you couldn't get enough of the sensations you were experiencing.

We demand loyalty, reliability, mystery, awe, comfort, support, novelty, and unpredictability. Finally, we demand to have children. And we take that as a given, and in that situation, pretty underwear is no longer helpful." Perel also shared the results of her research, which included a survey of thousands of men and women from 20 countries on the topic of long-term sexual attraction.
Based on the expert's findings, we've gathered 5 things you need to know to rekindle passion and sexual attraction in your relationship.

1. Find out what excites you and your partner🔞🔥

As a rule, sexual attraction and pleasure are based on intrigue, novelty, some mystery, risk, danger, the unknown and spontaneity. Think about how you can use this to give pleasure to both yourself and your partner.

2. take a break apart from each other🧘🏻♀🧘🏻

It may sound wild, but sometimes it is necessary. Most of us consider it an integral part of a normal, strong relationship to be together with our partner 24/7, almost sharing things in half and reading each other's minds. In this case, a certain distance is just necessary to make room in the relationship for something new. Being away from each other for some time, you will begin to miss and imagine how nice it would be if your spouse was there. These feelings are what make us want to possess our loved ones.
When we don't see the object of our affection for a while, our imagination begins to paint pictures of what it would be like to be with him and make love. But after being with a loving partner for a long time, we stop fantasizing. That's why sometimes it's necessary to be away from your loved one - to re-imagine what he or she looks like and how you'll feel around him or her. Recreating such scenarios in our minds is very important.

3. Be out of sight and reach 👁👀❌

We have a greater attraction to something inaccessible. It's not for nothing that they say "forbidden fruit is sweet." The same thing happens with a partner. What does it mean? Let's explain with examples. Let's say you attend a social event together and your loved one socializes with other people. Surely feelings of jealousy are literally causing you to distract your partner from the conversation and get some privacy.
Or you are in the same room with your soulmate, but she is busy doing other things, like talking on the phone or working. All of these factors that make your partner unavailable for a while make you want to constantly distract them, don't they? Conversely, when we have our full attention, that desire is gone.

4. Look at your partner when they are doing what they love👀👁🔞🔥

Think of that moment when your loved one is doing something they are really good at and there is an incredible confidence and strength coming from them. That automatically makes him more attractive in our eyes.
It is when we see our lovers in their element that they once again become a mystery to us and radiate something inaccessible that we want to get close to. This is what makes our partners sexually attractive. The great French writer Marcel Proust once said: "Mystery is not about traveling to new places, but about looking through new eyes."
So when you look at your lover in a moment when he is engrossed and focused on something, you instantly see him in a different light, from a different perspective. In doing so, you become, as Esther Perel says, "open to the mystery that lives right at your side."

5. Become independent of your soulmate 👩🏻💼💸

What kind of sexuality are we talking about when we feel a sense of need? According to Perel, it's a "powerful anti-aphrodisiac." Make sure you make yourself as independent of your partner as possible to maintain desire and attraction towards him or her.
So, if you are full of aspirations to carry your love and passion through life, try putting the above tips into practice. If it does not help, have a heart-to-heart talk with your partner and clearly define who and what exactly he wants, and, based on that, move on.