1. Remember that opposites do not attract. 🔥🧊❌

Of course, you can have different hobbies and views, but only as long as they do not invade the territory of your partner's core worldview positions. The life together of a patriarchal supporter and a feminist, a monarchist and a liberal, and even of a Spartak and CSKA fan is unlikely to be unclouded. In key issues you should look, in accordance with Exupery's precepts, in the same direction.

2. Make rules 📝❗️

Agreements are not an attempt to limit one's freedom, but an attempt to establish a common language in which your pair speaks. Your partner's views on the division of responsibilities, financial matters, the possibility of sex on the side, joint and separate vacations, and even on who goes to the shower first in the morning can be radically different from yours. You don't have to wait until a big fight to find out what he thinks about it. Set the rules ahead of time and follow them.

3. Hear someone else's "no."❌❗️

You don't have to do "what's best" if your partner has clearly expressed his or her disagreement with something. "No" does not mean "maybe" or "yes, but I want to be persuaded."

4. Don't tolerate a partner who does unpleasant things to teach you a lesson 🗣🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻

By taking the position of teacher, one ceases to be an equal partner and begins to act from the perspective of a superior, a subject who is allowed more. What's next? He gives you grades and expels you from home for failing? Someone who deliberately makes you feel guilty is not good for a relationship.

5. Don't try to be sneaky. 🐍🦊❌

You've probably heard advice along the lines of, "Be crafty, be quiet and do it your way," and "Just do it, then she'll know it's better." These are all tricks and manipulations that hurt the relationship. If you can't openly agree and you keep doing things that are unacceptable to your half, it is worth either reconsidering your position or changing partners.

6. Don't demand telepathic abilities from your partner. 🔊💭❌

Nature gave man a speech apparatus, use it as intended. Tell your partner what you like and dislike, what you expect, what actions upset you. And you certainly shouldn't accuse the person of not knowing what you're offended by.

7. Solve problems without involving a third party. 🫂👩🏻👨🏻

There's no need to run to your parents, friends or anonymous forum posts for advice. You always know better what's going on in the relationship, because you know all the circumstances of the conflict.
Let's say you did go to your mother for support and she agreed that your partner is wrong and not a good person at all. Only you and the offender will then make up, and for your mother (friend, the whole Internet) he will remain a scoundrel.

8. Take the trash out of the house.🏠🔈

At first glance, this tip seems to contradict the previous one, but it is not. If you realize that you can't cope with problems as a couple, it's worth asking for help. With the suddenly arisen different views on life will help to cope psychologist. In the case of mental or physical abuse, seek help wherever you can: friends, special centers, the police. Not everyone has the resources to get out of an abusive situation on their own.

9. Do not compare your relationships with the stories from books and movies. 🎬📖💔

Stop trying to repeat a love story from your favorite movie, book, much less a fairy tale. You're not Cinderella and the Prince or Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth Bennett (or Bridget Jones) or Tony Stark and Pepper Potts, your relationship develops differently, and that's okay.
And then, before plunging into the vanilla abyss called "happily ever after," the characters go through a series of difficulties because conflict is the engine of the story. Create your "happily ever after" without serial wisecracks and without relying on the fantasies of screenwriters and writers.

10. Move at your own pace ❤️📈

Even if all your friends got married within a year of meeting, had a baby in two, bought a house in the suburbs in five that was suitable for a large family, you don't have to try to cram your relationship into a similar scenario. Every couple moves at their own pace, just keep at it.