Many successful women are single. Is it their success or personal qualities that prevent finding a couple? Or maybe just men are afraid of them? Confident, ambitious girls who achieve their goals, while experiencing a feeling of loneliness. They feel that men are avoiding them. Self-esteem suffers from this. What's the matter?
The weaker sex in the 21st century can hardly be called weak: over the past hundred years, we have managed not only to catch up, but also to leave men behind in matters of career, earnings and education, we have achieved the right to elect and be elected. In some countries, we even serve in the army on an equal footing with men, and it seems that there are no “non-female” professions left. Moreover, statistics claim that by 2025 in the United States (and eventually in many other countries) it is women who will become the main breadwinners in their families. However, men still choose as partners those women who seem weak and dependent to them. So what's the reason?

Reasons for fear
Women's high expectations
The one that is “strong and independent” makes a list of requirements for a future partner, and if at least some of the desires are not satisfied, then write wasted. Many men are simply afraid of not reaching that very ideal. This is impossible, because there are no ideal ones. But if a man has already been in such a relationship, it seems to him that all successful business women are like that. Therefore, for a future couple, he would rather choose a simpler woman.

Competition within a couple
Another reason why men are afraid of successful women. This is called: "We look at the successful, and marry the modest." A man is unconsciously afraid of losing authority and dominance in a couple, because successful women radiate confidence and independence, and the psychology of most men is arranged differently. Not every man can accept the fact that his woman is more successful than him. In addition, he is afraid that at any moment she will choose the one who is better. Such a blow to self-esteem can not be sustained, so it is better to avoid such relationships altogether.

Stereotypical thinking
"If successful, then a bitch." Men may think so, because women have to show a certain strength of character in order to achieve heights. Such an attitude in a man means that a woman is always the same for him - both in business and in relationships. Most likely, he met such women on the way, which forced him to form a certain position. In addition, in the cinema, the image of a successful, but lonely lady because of her bitchiness is often reinforced, reinforcing false beliefs in the minds of not only men, but also women.
Let's remember the movie "The Devil Wears Prada" and the heroine Meryl Streep. At work, she was very tough, and viewers are left to figure out for themselves what is the reason for her failed marriages.

WHAT TO DO?
First and foremost, work with false beliefs. They develop in childhood and throughout life. Finding them on your own is not so easy, and here psychological and coaching techniques come to the rescue.
Men should reformulate their beliefs about the connection between success and bitchiness in a relationship by answering the questions: “Are all women really like that? Do you know all the women? Can you say 100% that all women are like that?
Women can also rework personal attitudes: "Not all men are afraid of successful women." This is true, otherwise all famous actresses, singers, business women would be alone. And this is not so at all.
The main thing is the flexibility of roles. At work, you are strong, independent, successful. With a man you are different. You are not a boss, you are a woman. Fragile, tender, requiring care and warmth.
It is important for men to feel the importance in the eyes of the woman they love. He will be happy and satisfied next to the one who needs his male care and protection. It is important to maintain a balance, and then there will be no bias in only one role.
Society shapes attitudes, experience reinforces them, but the truth is that things can be different. If it doesn’t work out in a relationship, you need to look for the reasons, first of all, within the personality. Then even a successful woman will not be a test, but a gift of fate💝