" What kind of nonsense is that, but what about love? Why can't a harmonious union, arising from a great and bright feeling, magically work by itself, like a well-oiled machine? Unfortunately, even the heroes of fairy tales do not hope for that. Relationships do require effort, and they can be strong and happy - if you know the right tips. A romantic connection can be strengthened and improved by working both ways:
✔️-demanding more of yourself,
✔️-demanding more from your partner.

No magic is required, everything is very simple and is laid out below in ten tips, following which you find a sure chance to extend your relationship to the mode "forever".

Be realistic.🪄❌
Real love is not like romantic love, which makes us overlook our partner's flaws. It's a choice. It is the constant support of the other person regardless of the circumstances. It is the understanding that your relationship will not always be unclouded. It is the need to deal with your partner's problems, his fears and thoughts, even when you do not want to. Such love is more prosaic, it requires from the partners much more effort. But nevertheless, it gives a person much more. After all, in the end it brings real happiness, and not another short-lived euphoria.

2. Respect each other.👆🏼
That's what's most important in a relationship. Not attraction, not common goals, not religion or even love. There will be times when you start to feel like you don't love each other at all anymore. But if you lose respect for your partner, you will never get it back.
Communication, no matter how open and frequent it would be, in any case, at some point will come to a standstill. There is no way to avoid conflicts and resentments.

The only thing that will save your relationship is unwavering respect. Without this, you will always doubt each other's intentions, judge your partner's choices and try to limit their independence.

In addition, you need to respect yourself. Without self-respect you will not be able to feel that you deserve the respect of your partner. You will constantly try to prove that you are worthy of it, and as a result you will only hurt your relationship.
✔️- Never complain about your partner to your friends. If you are unhappy about something in his behavior, discuss it with him yourself, not with friends and relatives.
✔️- Respect the fact that your partner may have interests, hobbies and views that differ from yours.
✔️- Respect the opinion of your partner. Don't forget, you are a team. If one is unhappy, you have to find a solution together.
✔️- Don't keep everything inside, discuss any problems. You should not have forbidden topics of conversation.
Respect is directly related to trust. And trust is the basis of any relationship (not just romantic). Without it, there can be no sense of intimacy and serenity.

3) Discuss all problems.🗣
If something doesn't suit you, be sure to discuss it. No one will fix your relationship for you. The main thing to preserve trust is absolute honesty and openness of both partners.
✔️- Share your doubts and fears, especially those you don't tell anyone else about. This will not only help heal some of the wounds in your soul, but also help you understand your partner better.
✔️- Keep the promises you make. The only way to restore trust is to keep your word.
✔️- Learn to distinguish between your partner's suspicious behavior and your own complexes. Usually during arguments, one person thinks his behavior is perfectly normal, while the other person thinks it is categorically wrong.
Trust is somewhat like a porcelain plate. If it falls and breaks, with great difficulty it can still be glued back together again.
If you break it again, there will be twice as many pieces, and it will take more time and effort to put them back together. But if you drop the plate over and over again, eventually it will break into such small pieces that it will be impossible to glue them together.

4. Don't try to control each other.⛔️
We often hear that relationships require sacrifice. There is some truth in that: sometimes you do have to give up something. But if both partners constantly sacrifice themselves, they are unlikely to be happy. That kind of relationship will only end up hurting them both.

Each person must be an independent individual with his own views and interests.

Trying to control your partner to make them happy (or letting them control their own actions) won't do any good.
Some people are afraid to give their partner freedom and independence. This may be due to a lack of trust or insecurity. The less we value ourselves, the more we will try to control our partner's behavior.

5. Be prepared for both of you to change. 👥
Over time, you and your partner will change - it's completely natural. That's why it's important to always be aware of the changes and respect them.

If you plan to spend several decades together, you need to be prepared for challenges and unforeseen situations.

Among the significant changes that many couples face are changes in religion and political views, moving to another country, and the deaths of relatives (including children).
When you begin dating, you only know what that person is like now. You have no way of knowing what he will be like in five or 10 years. So you have to be prepared for the unexpected. Of course, this is not easy. But it can help to know how to fight properly.