Only destructive conflicts are dangerous (these are those that are not beneficial for the development of relations), they very often lead to major scandals, quarrels, or to the complete cessation of relationships. Here there are only negative emotions - anger, resentment, aggression. In such conflict situations, people may not hear each other, it is important for everyone to win the dispute, and not solve the problem that has arisen. Such a strategy of behavior is called struggle or coercion. For example, a husband and wife are both leaders by nature, each does not want to make concessions to each other. Over time, petty quarrels and misunderstandings can turn into a real scandal, which can start for a completely insignificant reason.

The second destructive strategy of behavior is leaving or ignoring the problem. Hushing up discontent can be useful only if it is an insignificant trifle: a harsh word spoken not out of malice, an accidental shoulder shove in public transport. In other cases, ignoring the problem leads to more serious conflicts not only with others, but also with oneself.

Excessive compliance also negatively affects relationships. It seems that a person does not have his own opinion, he indulges others in everything. Such a strategy of behavior hides huge intrapersonal and interpersonal conflicts.

Constructive and positive strategies of behavior in conflict are compromise and cooperation. They are useful in every way. A compromise is a concession on both sides in order to achieve a common goal. And cooperation is the acceptance and understanding of a different point of view. The opportunity to look at the situation from the other side and come to the right decision together. An example of a constructive compromise can be a situation in friendly relations, when two girlfriends choose a country for vacation. One wants to actively relax in Europe, and the second wants to lie quietly on the beach in Egypt. As a result, they choose Thailand, where they can do both. Both sides are satisfied, the conflict is over.

Avoiding conflicts is not worth it, you need to be able to solve them correctly and prevent destructive manifestations. To do this, you need to work on yourself and relationships.

1. It's very important to always talk about yourself, about your feelings. A person may not realize that his words can offend people and cause discomfort.

2. Don't blame or humiliate a loved one. In a fit of anger, we want to hurt a person more painfully, we blame and remember old grievances. This alienates, sets against each other.

3. It's also important to be able to admit when you are wrong and be able to apologize.

4. Willingness to hear, listen and feel each other will help resolve any conflict. Empathy is very important in any relationship. You need to be able to put yourself in the place of another person and try to understand how he feels.

Conflicts are good for developing relationships. It's important to learn how to solve problems in the right way. To do this, you need to work on yourself, because the more conflict a person seems on the outside, the more unhappy he is inside.