Thanksgiving: The Simple Secret to a Happy Relationship
“And they lived happily ever after” is the most popular ending to good fairy tales. The heroes walked towards each other despite the whispers of envious people, and now, finally, they found love. So what happened next?
How exactly should one live and what should one do to make this “happily ever after” happen? Usually history is silent, but we decided to find out. What to do for those who are lucky enough to find a life partner? How to keep love so that it only grows stronger over the years?
The secret will surely surprise you. The basis of a long and happy relationship is the gratitude of partners to each other!

❣️Magic mechanism❣️
When you pay attention to relationships, invest time and effort, your partner’s gratitude in return is a natural reaction. If it is not there, then over time the desire to do something for him disappears.
The most common mistake partners make in long-term relationships is to take care and affection for granted. For example, a man brings money to the house, and instead of caring, he receives reproaches. Or a woman devotes all of herself to the hearth and life, but does not hear gratitude at all. Familiar situations?
Gratitude is the strongest motivator for both to keep trying. It works as a positive reinforcement. The simplest example: a man has not given flowers for a long time, and suddenly he brought a bouquet to the lady of the heart. Offended by a long lack of attention, a woman wrinkles her nose: “Fu, daisies, I love roses!” - and will not receive another time either daisies or roses. Or she can blossom into a smile and sincerely thank you for a beautiful gesture - and then see roses, and tulips, and exotic orchids.
Gratitude works in a special way. When we hear it, we perceive it as a compliment to our own personality. Who doesn't want to hear compliments every day?

❣️Gratitude in Practice❣️
The easiest way to express gratitude is to say “thank you”. But he is not the only one, and you can diversify it in the most amazing ways: slip a chocolate bar into your jacket pocket, write a tender note, loudly praise your spouse in a telephone conversation with a friend. You can even say “thank you” in different ways. For example, “you have such a wonderful idea to dismantle this garage”! Or “I am so pleased that in the evenings you give me a foot massage.” They say that “I” statements motivate even more: tell how you feel when you feel cared for by a partner.

❣️Gratitude and conflict❣️
Quarreled? It's time to let off steam and remember why this relationship is so valuable to you. Write a list of all the things for which you are grateful to your Loved One. At first, this exercise will be difficult. It is understandable, because you are offended! But you will see: after the first few points, your heart will warm up. Yes, it was this Neanderthal who scattered socks around the apartment who supported you at the doctor’s office, poured a glass of Beloved “Sunny Nectarine”, gave you roses, provided you with cozy housing and pampered you with chocolates. And now the conflict no longer seems so offensive and insoluble!

❤️‍🔥Bonus: Daily Gratitude Exercise
Waking up in the morning, first of all think about what you are grateful to your Beloved for. Let this serve as the basis for your creative challenge for the day: think of how you want to express gratitude today. Let it be a trifle, but a trifle multiplied for each day of the year has a tremendous impact on relationships!