Now you are mine

Lena is already 34, and she desperately wants to get married and have a child. But she is catastrophically unlucky in her personal life. One has only to start dating a guy who is suitable for the role of dad and husband, as he immediately disappears from the horizon, stops answering calls or refers to being busy for months.

The problem is that Lena appropriates a man as soon as she realizes that he suits her according to her criteria. Having identified a man as a worthy candidate, she herself begins the hunt: she calls every day, demands meetings and certainty. Usually, men do not withstand such pressure and retreat, no matter how interesting the girl is to them at the beginning of the acquaintance. In order not to scare a man at the very beginning of an acquaintance, you should not immediately identify him as a guarantor of future family happiness. It is important for a man to give time to realize that he wants a serious relationship with this particular woman, and not with any other.

I'm all yours

Ira is a very bright and attractive girl, so there is no end to those who want to get to know her. But most often, gentlemen disappear after the first or second sex, while Irina falls in love with a man and clearly does not hide it. Afterward, she complains to her friends with tears in her eyes: "I was so sincere with him, so open. How could he neglect me?"

The problem is that women, as a rule, do not separate sex from feelings and become attached to a man immediately, becoming close to him physically. At the same time, for most men, sex without emotional inclusion is a common thing, they are so arranged. For these men, sex without commitment is possible, and for a serious relationship, they need to see in a partner something much more valuable than sexual attractiveness. Do not immediately open the soul, even if the man seems perfect. It is important to keep some secret and get closer gradually. Otherwise, a man may feel guilty for not feeling the need to open up in return. And then he can distance himself from the woman who opened up too soon.

You are the man, you must

Andrei is a handsome young man who, although he has not yet reached any heights either in his career or in business, is completely independent, lives separately, has plans for the foreseeable future. However, with all his desire, he fails to build relationships with girls who are attractive to him. “They want everything at once,” he shares. “And to earn more money, and take them to resorts, and give expensive gifts, and pay a lot of attention.”

There is nothing wrong with wanting to marry a worthy man who has the opportunity to provide for a family, and will love, and be faithful. But, no matter how sad it may be, often we ourselves do not meet the requirements that we put forward to men. Most often, the male sex runs in all directions from demanding ladies. Before expecting a man to meet certain requirements, it is important to answer the question: "What can I give him?" In relationships, as in business, there is a law: the more you give, the more you get. Give men more than you expect from them, and someone will surely appear who wants to perform feats for you in return.

I have a lot of problems. Here comes a man who...

Olya's working day lasts 12-14 hours, and she often works seven days a week. In addition, she has a child whom she is raising without a father and who requires a lot of attention. There is no time for dates, and if you manage to get to know a man, then the relationship still does not add up - he runs away from her after a short time. At the same time, Olya is sure: “Now, if I meet a man who will help me, then I will have time for him.”

The problem is that no one wants problems (sorry for the tautology). After all, women also do not want to communicate with a man whose life is not arranged, who is in constant debt, illness, in a bad mood. From relationships, especially in the early stages, people are looking for joy, pleasure, positive emotions and definitely do not want to hear complaints and whining about constant problems. Most often, worthy men do not need those women who need help, but rather, they themselves are ready to help those with whom it is good, with whom they can relax and unwind. Solving your own problems will in no way make you less feminine. On the contrary, self-solving problems raises self-esteem and self-respect. Such a woman will be able to attract the attention of a more worthy man, because an independent self-respecting woman is more interesting and attractive than one who constantly complains about problems.

Gotta give him a chance

From the very beginning, Natalya did not have any special feelings for Ilya. But the friends were entirely for their union, and my mother liked the guy for a long time. And the girl decided that, probably, she was too demanding, waiting for some incredible prince. It is worth paying attention to who is nearby, who wants a relationship. But for some reason, the relationship did not stick from the very beginning. Ilya irritated Natasha, but he himself did not trust her, was jealous, demanded attention. Natasha, exhausted by constant conflicts and dissatisfaction, decided not to communicate with the fan anymore.

The problem is that quite a few women are able to listen to themselves, to their desires and needs. Therefore, men are often chosen based on some social norms, on the ideas of mothers and girlfriends, on information received at women's trainings. And it’s good if they get out of relationships with men whom they are not able to love in time. It often happens that they marry fans who meet social criteria, convincing themselves that there is no better party, and then suffer in a functional marriage. If there is no sympathy for the applicant for the hand and heart, it is better to listen to yourself and not torment yourself or him. You have a chance to meet a man who will be attractive to you.

And yet, sometimes you should not look for your mistake in the fact that it didn’t work out with a person who liked you so much and who showed hope for a serious relationship. Maybe it's nobody's fault, just not this time and not with this.