Sometimes the anticipation of a vacation together is many times better than the trip itself, because couples are not ready for what awaits them. Instead of the usual few hours, they spend several days or even weeks with each other, which becomes a real test. Everyday problems creep up imperceptibly: it turns out that someone is used to throwing things around the room, someone is used to sitting in a foamy bath for an hour, and someone is lying in bed until dinner is served. A joint trip opens the eyes of partners to many nuances.
There is a widespread belief that the main test for a relationship is a long separation, but in fact, a hotel room for two becomes a much more difficult and serious exam. Being with each other 24 hours a day is not easy even for very close people. A banal example: one is an “owl” and the other is a “lark”, which greatly affects joint plans. A conflict can even arise because, for example, the girl offered to get up early so as not to go to the beach in the heat, and the man refused because he wants to spend his vacation without alarm clocks.
It is in such conditions that a certain style of relations is formed: will the partners agree to a mutual compromise or will they impose their opinion on each other, will they make a joint decision on a common regime or will they swear on the basis of a difference of views. During the holidays, the couple will constantly be in search of ways to an agreement: they will go to the beach or go on an excursion, dine at a restaurant or at home, spend a day in a water park or pay for a boat trip. People cannot claim to know each other well until they have lived together for at least a few days.

It is quite possible that on vacation you will look at your soulmate with completely different eyes. For example, you will see that the partner is actually not ordinary, as you considered him up to this point, but kind, caring, cheerful, selfless. Or vice versa - it turns out that you idealized a person, or he skillfully hid his true face, and took off his mask on vacation.
In a vacation atmosphere, obligations and time frames fade into the background, we become free, focusing solely on desires and feelings.
A joint trip requires a long and careful preparation. And it's not just about buying tickets, booking a hotel room, making a list of things you'll need on vacation. It is very important to understand how much time partners are willing to devote to each other and how rigid their personal boundaries are. Every person needs air and free space, and on vacation there is a risk of not catching the moment when the other half wants to be alone. If you're not in the habit of frankly telling each other that you need some alone time, pay attention to your partner's behavior. When he looks distracted, answers questions inappropriately, lost in his thoughts, he may need a "breath" and it is better to leave him alone.

Dissolving in each other is very dangerous. Usually, when two people look forward to a joint vacation and time that only the two of them can spend, they rush into this proximity as if into a pool with their heads. But not even a few days pass, as the feeling of fatigue comes. And not from outdoor activities, but from each other. There is nothing surprising in this result - despite the fact that a person is a social being, we value our own individuality and personal boundaries no less.
Another trap that is easy to fall into during a shared vacation is the idealization of relationships. We have dreamed about this trip for so long and wanted everything to go as well as possible that we ignore the alarm bells in the partner's behavior. Moreover, we do not do what we want, but what is expected of us, trying to embellish the real look. However, trying to seem perfect usually does not lead to anything good. Trying to justify the expectations of a partner, we cease to be ourselves, and we blame the partner for the feeling of discomfort that has appeared, because this game was started for him.

Try to always be as open as possible in relationships. He should know about your feelings, habits, how you behave in moments of anger or irritation. Yes, there is a risk that you will not be accepted for who you are. But then what is the point of a relationship? It is unlikely that you will agree to play someone else's role throughout your life together.

And a few more tips.
• Plan together - often in couples, one person is responsible for organizing the trip: he is looking for cheap flights, booking accommodation, compiling a list of attractions to visit. In the course of preparation, he gets so tired that then he doesn’t want any vacation. And if a partner who did not take part in the organization starts to complain about something, the trip is in jeopardy. To avoid this, share responsibilities and consult with each other. You can download a shared todoo list app and set up map sharing to mark places you want to see.
• Spend less time on your phone - even the author of "Game of Thrones" doesn't kill his characters as quickly as notifications from social networks - a romantic atmosphere. Therefore, agree with your partner at what time you will check mail and social networks - for example, in the evening before going to bed. The rest of the time, use your phone exclusively as a camera or player.
• Get an unusual joint experience - nothing brings together like learning new things. Don't limit your vacation to the beach and excursions - visit a place where you can create something of your own. For example, in Berlin it will be possible to brew beer together, in Naples - to cook pizza, in Tokyo - to make an ikebana. Such a pastime will give moments that will be pleasant to remember when you return home. In addition, psychologists believe that lovers should have at least one common interest - how about Italian cuisine?