Unfortunately, even the heroes of fairy tales do not hope for this. Relationships really require effort, and they can be strong and happy - if you know the right life hacks. Romantic connection can be strengthened and improved by working in two directions:
-demanding more from myself,
-demanding more from the partner.
No magic will be required, everything is extremely simple and set out below in the ten tips, following which you get a sure chance to extend your relationship to the "forever" regime.

1. Don't sacrifice your personal life

Not in the sense that "continue to go on dates with a stable partner" - freedom of this kind is difficult to combine with serious intentions. You can burn with a sincere passion for each other, but this does not mean that the rest of your life should dissolve in selfless adoration. Do not forget your friends and loved ones, do not give up evening yoga, Saturday spa sessions and Sunday breakfasts with your sister. Take care of independence, do not drown your personality in love, do not start the habit of taking time off and reporting - by losing the status of single, you can still do whatever you want and whenever you want. It invigorates, maintains self-esteem and saves relationships from routine and boredom.

2. Be honest with your feelings

Tell yourself the truth and only the truth: are you really happy? Satisfied? Physically, emotionally, morally? Yes, it's not easy - women's nature is prone to sacrificial compromises, but these three points are crucial. If you are connected only by mind-blowing sex, sooner or later there will be a problem "to talk?" If you entertain each other with a play of words, but at the same time the intimacy slips by a "three" - the forecast is also unfavorable. Or are you satisfied with both mind and physiology, but he avoids talking about love and never gave you a flower? Obviously, this will soon stop you. The secret of strong reciprocity is in a strong and natural connection on all points; so make sure that everything is the same in your relationship or at least goes to it. In other scenarios, consider the ways to retreat.

3. Do not pursue or harass with jealousy

Oh, this eternal female question: "Where are you?" piercing men like a voodoo spell needle. If you fall asleep with his messages 24/7, call a hundred times a day and in general your world revolves only around him, it's time to admit that your feelings mutate into dependence. Persecution strangles men. This approach will not help to keep anyone, acting exactly the opposite. Be more confident, don't worry, he won't go anywhere. And even if you got such a hot handsome man that it's hard not to worry about it, convince yourself that you will be fine anyway. Disable the pursuit option. Once and for all. Remember that you are fire, too. Let him pursue you, it's much more exciting.

4. Love yourself and take care of yourself

Many women complain that they either cannot find a suitable partner or always attract specimens that treat them incorrectly. The reason is low self-esteem: we attract the level of love that we experience to ourselves. It is impossible to burn yourself with a napalm of self-criticism every day and expect others to treat you like a queen. Believe me, men easily read it.
Take a positive look at your qualities and start loving yourself for who you are right now.

And if you love yourself, then take care of yourself - take care of your health, go to bed on time, allow yourself a relaxing bubble bath or maybe a spontaneous bachelorette party tonight. It is very important to pamper yourself by feeding your soul outside the relationship, otherwise you will have nothing to give.

5. Don't strive to please and adapt

The desire to please is based on the expectation of positive feedback: love, kindness, gratitude. However, the world is unreasonably generous with negativity, and people will be happy to use you, recognizing the need to give themselves without a trace. Relationships are a two-way street: please for your health, but make sure you are also treated. Strive for a healthy balance of dedication and selfishness. And please do not be fooled for fear of loneliness, agreeing to the options from the series "let it be so" - this approach does not bring happiness. I'm not one of those who is waiting for Mr. Perfection, but I firmly believe that each of us can count on the "what we need" option.

6. Don't avoid problems

Nobody likes conflicts. That is, there are probably people who are entertained by discord, but apparently they are in the minority. But what happens if partners, not wanting to sort things out, constantly turn on the avoidance mode? Nothing good. If you avoid problems for years, they will accumulate, and one day you will wake up 25 years later and realize that you will never be able to understand them again, because you have long forgotten where this huge pile began. Do not suppress negative (or positive) emotions. Talk to your partner about any problems that bother you. First of all, you are a team, which means that you need to overcome adversity together. And secondly, you always deserve respect and the right to speak out.

8. Make equal efforts

There is an opinion that the relationship requires a 50-50 return. What nonsense, only 100 by 100! Both partners must make 100% of their efforts every day to maintain the relationship in the right degree and dynamics. It is difficult to expect harmony from the connection "100 vs 20", "100 vs 50" or even "100 vs 99". You have to be on an equal footing. If your union is unbalanced, you need to talk about it to get back on track.

9. Don't skimp on empathy and appreciation

Acting as a team, you can't oppose each other. So you can't take into account only your own point of view. Whether you're right or not, recognize the reality of the difference in perception. If your partner sees the situation differently, try to understand and, most importantly, let me know that you respect his view of things. What else? Be a good listener and feel free to be grateful. Even if he just loaded the dishwasher, tell him "thank you." Thank him for what he's doing for you, and he'll want to do it again to make you happy. And, of course, I will be grateful in response.

10. Don't try to change it

It's no secret that many women believe that they are able to change the man with whom they decided to connect their lives. "If I make him lose 10 kilos, he will be much more attractive," or "If I can wean him from video games, I will be happy," or "As soon as we get married, he will change for the better" - all these internal insinuations have nothing to do with real love and long-term happiness. If you don't like the way he looks, talks or kisses right now, without thinking about any wonderful changes, you shouldn't be with him. Period. Free yourself from invented duties - leave it to someone who will be happy with the original.